Got my biggest rejection ever

Wiill power my man you csn do it you can bucking well do it. Do not for one second listen to that girl. You just got to get on with it lifes to short to take a rejection to heart. Im on day one i feel the same as you, your not alone man, lets kick porns ass !

 

http://emergency.nofap.org - Click the "Rejection" link. It works best if you don't keep hitting refresh but simply take what you need a move on.

Best of luck to you. Relapse happens!

I know how you feel man. The girl of my dreams didn't like me either.

- VM

 

I know what you're going through. I've been rejected by many girls. A girl once called me a creep. I really liked this girl. At the time I thought she was the girl of my dreams, but now that I'm older I realized there are much more attractive girls than her that fit my personality. Don't bring yourself down. I'm sure you'll find the right girl.

 

bro the moment u will start to plan for ur life without including a woman in it , u will get everything u want including a hot woman .for now see what field u like the most i dont know sports , music , science , and try to be the best at it , and trust only then u will look back at this experience and u will laugh ur ass off XD. And then u will have all what it takes to get any woman u want .cause the crual reality is that most of women nowadays are no more than an expensive sex toy .so u gotta afford it first .

 

Hey RedDeer,

I know you probably don't want to hear this right now, but I want to help you put a positive spin on things.

This rejection? As much as it hurts, it's a good thing. You will never again waste time, energy, or effort on this woman who clearly did not respect you for what you're worth. I've learned to embrace rejection - get them early and get them often. The more you get them, the less they phase you, and the sooner you can move on to someone who is worth your time.

I'm not just pulling this shit out of nowhere either - I was a 28 year old virgin until November of last year. I got over my virginity, after seven previous years of self improvement, by going out and hitting on an average of 2 woman a day (probably more than that, but there were days I didn't approach anyone and days when I hit on a ton). With the hundreds of women I approached, I only went on six first dates. I am no stranger to rejection.

I've felt your pain man...and I tell you, it gets much better. I'm currently single, and haven't had date in a month, despite hitting on about four women every day in the mean time. But I'm a happy man, because I've learned to pride myself on hard work and putting myself out there, and not on the immediate results.

And you will too...and one day you will look back on this night and laugh...and you will see it as a blessing that helped build a strong and amazing man with options in his life.

 

Take this as a lesson from a guy who's been in your shoes. Don't put your heart out there until you know for sure. Make them prove themselves worthy to be with you. Of course, this also means you need to be the best version of yourself. Stay on top of your goals. You should always aim to make them sorry they ever said no. Good luck to you.

 

I know such girls Reddeer i was in a relationship with one for 3years , super attractive girl.But dead inside ...trust me you dont want to make this experience.Good looks are nice yes , but a good looking person with a cold heart is a corpse to me.Yesterday i met a not so beautiful guitar playing girl , she wrote a song about her feelings and the breakup with her boyfriend.That shit did melt my heart its long time ago that i met a person capable of love.Her voice was so enchanting... better not so hot but a nice character and heart than a hot person with a stone inside!

Regards
Phil

 

Rejection happens. Never mind it. In fact, ask yourself if you can feel great about yourself right when you're remembering the rejection, and the sense of feeling low when rejected. A lot of people may think I am advocating simply taking it easy and not changing yourself, but my understanding of cutting edge addiction studies is this. It is always about self image. You feel like there is a hole in your soul, and you want to fill that hole up with something. For us on nofap, for years, it has been PMO. For others it is coke, codine, heroin, alcohol, work, food. To be entirely honest, what you're trying to fill the hole with may change, but the root of any kind of addictive behavior is feeling that one is incomplete and unworthy at the core. Check out Gabor Mate's work on addiction. Also check out Marc Lewis's work. The Buddhist teacher Tara Brach, in her talk 'Relating Wisely to Desire', speaks about this sense of having a hole in your center. So, if you are feeling down about the girl of your dreams rejecting, and beating yourself up saying 'I always PMO' and 'I am worthless' - remember that this feeling of lack of self worth is the root. Make friends with yourself. Start to unconditionally love yourself. See what miracles happen when that is done.

 

In other words, my gratuitous advice on the topic: Each time you feel low about yourself because of the rejection from your dream girl, move from that sense of shame to the first feeling that gives you freedom. Anger. Yup, that's right. When feeling shame, it's tough to feel joy or confidence, but you can easily feel angry at your dream girl. The key is to not get stuck on the anger, but to take the energy of anger and use it to make yourself feel good. Say something like this to yourself: "So what; she turned me down, but that's because she's got her own issues to deal with. She's missing out on the wonderful and unique piece of the universe that I am." Then, list out all the things that make you feel worthy, right when you're in the feeling of anger. "I am great at..." fill in the blank. Keep listing out your own positive attributes until you start to genuinely feel better about your place in the universe. Then soothe yourself, and say this: "There are millions of good women on this planet, and many who are at least as good as this girl who turned me down. Someone better is going to come my way, because of my unique appeal." Then continue to recount the things that make you feel proud about being you. Don't worry, as long as you acknowledge that everyone else is special as well, you won't get conceited at the end of this.

 

If she spazzed out like that, there's something wrong with her. Asking her out is not asking too much, in fact it's normal. Any woman that says you're psycho, obsessed, delusional, or say you will never get with them after a executing a simple, biologically-built in function that's apart of everyone, needs to re-evaluate her life and stop chasing after low lifes.

Something tells me she isn't right in the head and needs to do more maturing.