Wallfacer
Fapstronaut
I've decided to talk to more people when I'm not at home, and so far, it has been great. I think combined with nofap this has boosted my overall happiness, as nowadays I wake up looking forward to the day ahead. This has been a huge change for me, because last year, I hated my acquaintances circle and feel no much connection with it. This year, I've become better friends with many acquaintances and man they are fun to talk to!
I do think this is partially helped by NoFap, because whenever I relapse, I feel like shit and just generally dislike myself. When I'm on NoFap, I wake up with a smile and feel an ever present sense of joy and happiness. I am more passionate about the project I'm working on, and I always enjoy myself when socializing.
I have installed several blockers on my computer, added openDNS family shield on my router(and changed the password for my routerLogin), put SelfControl app on 1 week and locked away sites like instagram, youtube, and reddit, so that I know that I can work using my computer without worrying about looking up dirty stuff. For my phone, it is harder to do these things, so I made a rule in which I am not allowed to use it in bed, and when I get urges I must put my phone away and not use it till next hour.
And I am aware of the potential relapse. A good analogy would be running against a moving stair- I have to keep going forward to not be pushed backward. There will be no shortcuts. some of my daily plans are
1, workout 45 min
2, sleep before 9:30
3, read nofap related content for 30 min,
4, set up a plan for the day and focus on it, no distraction until i reach a planned rest(I think this is important, because I've realized I actually get more tired when I'm distracted. When I throw myself at a plan, I feel a general higher sense of happiness and purpose and feels more energetic and creative)
5, meditate 10 min a day
In my past, I have setted up these plans before, but I sometimes fail to execute them. In fact, I have not once experience a situation where I achieved all 5 of these plans and still relapse. Of course, just like you can only grow muscle if you give an exercise all that you've got, this will only work if I am disciplined in its execution. For the past few days I have not been very disciplined in its execution, but after experiencing the great benefit of an early sleep yesterday, I am going start sleeping early and execute the plan- because I know even if I just slack off on one of the clauses, my chance of relapsing will increase, and I cannot let that happen because I don't want porn to take away my current sense of joy. My sense of happiness, interest, creativity, and passion has dramatically increased and I love my life.
I do think this is partially helped by NoFap, because whenever I relapse, I feel like shit and just generally dislike myself. When I'm on NoFap, I wake up with a smile and feel an ever present sense of joy and happiness. I am more passionate about the project I'm working on, and I always enjoy myself when socializing.
I have installed several blockers on my computer, added openDNS family shield on my router(and changed the password for my routerLogin), put SelfControl app on 1 week and locked away sites like instagram, youtube, and reddit, so that I know that I can work using my computer without worrying about looking up dirty stuff. For my phone, it is harder to do these things, so I made a rule in which I am not allowed to use it in bed, and when I get urges I must put my phone away and not use it till next hour.
And I am aware of the potential relapse. A good analogy would be running against a moving stair- I have to keep going forward to not be pushed backward. There will be no shortcuts. some of my daily plans are
1, workout 45 min
2, sleep before 9:30
3, read nofap related content for 30 min,
4, set up a plan for the day and focus on it, no distraction until i reach a planned rest(I think this is important, because I've realized I actually get more tired when I'm distracted. When I throw myself at a plan, I feel a general higher sense of happiness and purpose and feels more energetic and creative)
5, meditate 10 min a day
In my past, I have setted up these plans before, but I sometimes fail to execute them. In fact, I have not once experience a situation where I achieved all 5 of these plans and still relapse. Of course, just like you can only grow muscle if you give an exercise all that you've got, this will only work if I am disciplined in its execution. For the past few days I have not been very disciplined in its execution, but after experiencing the great benefit of an early sleep yesterday, I am going start sleeping early and execute the plan- because I know even if I just slack off on one of the clauses, my chance of relapsing will increase, and I cannot let that happen because I don't want porn to take away my current sense of joy. My sense of happiness, interest, creativity, and passion has dramatically increased and I love my life.
