Greetings from the Netherlands

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Martin9121991, May 27, 2019.

  1. Martin9121991

    Martin9121991 Fapstronaut

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    Hi everybody!

    My name is Martin and I'm 27 years old. I grew up in the small town of Zwijndrecht, South Holland the Netherlands. I now live in Dordrecht, a small city close to my hometown. I work as a manager for a tech consultancy company. In my spare time, I love to go rock climbing, exercising and going to dance events. I have a girlfriend for three months now whom I'm quite fond of.

    I started masturbating to porn when I was 11. Since then this negative habit has grown stronger and stronger. Needing more and more stimulation porn to get "the high." During my side job as a dating coach, I started realizing that I had a problem and how it was influencing my love life. I wanted to change this behavior but then found that that was going to be harder than I thought. I reached 26 days, relapsed hard, got back up again, relapsed, etc. etc. It has destroyed a previous relationship of mine but I don't want it to get my current relationship as well. She is super sweet, beautiful and willing so there is absolutely no reason for me to masturbate to pornography. But I just can't stop.. I probably don't have to mention the impact of my behavior on our relationship. I confessed my addiction to her Saturday (it is now Monday) and made an appoint with an addiction psychologist. But there is a long waiting list of three months. So until my actual therapy starts I want to give NoFap a new try and hopefully stay clean. Thanks for listing.

    With kind regards,

    Martin
     
  2. bfdet

    bfdet Fapstronaut

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    If you haven't already done so, please read the "Getting Started Guide" available on this site's home page. It includes a lot of information that you will find helpful as you start your journey of healing. Also have a look at the "Glossary" on the top of this page for definitions of abbreviations and terms that may be new to you.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  3. Martin9121991

    Martin9121991 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you bfdet!
     
  4. It sounds like you have a nice girl. You can do it. Its best to encourage others, this will help you out as well and give you strength!
     
  5. Always be positive

    Always be positive Fapstronaut

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  6. Martin9121991

    Martin9121991 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much Mr. McMarty! That does actually help and your support warms my heart!
     
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  7. Martin9121991

    Martin9121991 Fapstronaut

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    Hi Always be Positive! That is some pretty solid advice but also kinda hard to implement all at onces. I'm going to stick to the philosophy of 'one thing at a time.' I'm am going to start with meditation to support my quest but I'll stick to warm showers for now ;)
     
  8. SovjetOnion

    SovjetOnion Fapstronaut

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    Gaat lukken man. Ookal val je terug, blijven proberen! Success
     
  9. Martin9121991

    Martin9121991 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks!
     
  10. Always be positive

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    It takes willpower to implement more habits at once, its best to implement habits 1 by 1, when that 1 habit stop taking your willpower and it becomes routine then implement another habit, for me my habits are just not taking my willpower but i am enjoying them, especially cold showers and meditation ^_^
     

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