guys, do you found it easier to get a girl after quitting masturbation?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by New Challenger, Jan 3, 2016.

  1. New Challenger

    New Challenger Fapstronaut

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    i dont mean doing nofap would automatically give us a girl, but do you guys feel more confident in talking to or approching girls, higher chances of getting laid?
     
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  2. calo9025

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    It does build your confidence yes. I wouldn't say that nofap is the fix all but from my personal experienced it has helped me some.
     
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  3. MrCharacter

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    One thing I can say that NoFap forces you past the superficial attributes about girls. As, when we watch porn all we see is unreal beauty. Therefore, we always setting ourselves for failure and leads to self doubt. Once porn is completely unliminated, we have not set standards and go with the flow. So if you're talking to a, say 3/4 and have a good time, you like her for her. Example, on New Year's Eve I girl who I would rate a 1/2 started to talk to talk to me. I didn't like her but she's was interested in me and wanted a kiss. If I wasn't on NoFap then I would have been disgusted but I am on NoFap so I kissed her and nothing come about it. I can move on with my life and just go with flow.
     
  4. BlackZtype

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    From my personal view I didn't see any difference after my longest streak of roughly 5 months in 2014. I think mostly is because of my personal issues at that period of time. Still I have the belief that Nofap will fix something inside me some day.
     
  5. Red Eagle

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    NoFap makes you more comfortable around girls. For some reason social anxiety disappears largely through NoFap. At Least that's my case. Women notice this when you're at peace with yourself and you're confident. They like the relaxed vibe you're giving off. Guys also seem to notice this and start to respect you more.
    Some people claim you also produce more sexual pheromones while on NoFap because you're not constantly wrecking your whole hormonal system through fapping but I can't say if that's true.
    The most important thing NoFap gave me is Energy. Energy and time. I feel so full of energy I'm constantly thinking about what new things I can try out. I've been going out and trying new things. I've never really done that before. Before NoFap I was a pathetic Video Gamer with social anxiety who'd jerk one off now and then to get this short feeling of pleasure.
     
  6. MrCharacter

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    Red Eagle I love your quote "Today is not the day I Fap"
     
  7. Red Eagle

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    Haha thanks! :)
    Just say that to yourself out loudly everytime you want to fap. It works.
     
  8. WarriorScarr

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    I think it gives you the confidence. Just little things like starting a conversation and smiling at a woman came easier. Now woman are doing that to me almost daily. They definitely can tell something good is going on with you.
     
  9. New Challenger

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    Very much appreciated for the replies guys :) So beside confidence and energy level, do you guys notice any improvement on working memory, brain speed and learning capacity (better understanding, learn new things faster)?
     
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  10. WarriorScarr

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    Memory and focus has improved. It's like a heightened since of awareness. As far as memory it's about the same. Only time I had a problem with that was on the first week of my first streak. I couldn't remember anything but it came back.
     
  11. MrCharacter

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    Red Eagle could I get a shout out in your next Youtube video?
     
  12. Red Eagle

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    I don't even have a youtube channel lol. Did you think that is my video in my signature? :D
    But starting a YT channel. That's an idea.
     
  13. MrCharacter

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    Yep ooops.
     
  14. melancholy king

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    I honestly don't see why it matters. Even if Nofap made you worse at picking up chicks, it would still be a good choice because of all the other benefits, whether they be direct or indirect. That being said I believe the answer is probably yes. The reason being that porn has warped your perception of men and women, you believe women all have double D's and have a fanny like Kim Kardashian, and you think all men are hung like horses and have six packs and such. It also likely changes your perception of relationships also, I mean I know of many men that literally only think about getting with females to screw them. The cause? likely pornography. So I think a different perception of things will make you act differently, thus making you more attractive. As I have said before, I would immediately start to take a girls clothes off in my mind, no shit women didn't want me.
     
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  15. ned123

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    Eloquently put Red! Am on day 13 no PMO and you've hit the nail on the head there mate. Even though I feel like I've got my balls in a vice - I seem to be totally chilled with everyone. And really chatty with girls and noticing all women not just the ones I might normally look at. And Ye - the energy is mental. Feels a bit unreal but am feeling great.
     
  16. New Challenger

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    I relapsed 3 days ago at day 17. Before relapse I could feel that I have more energy, alittle bit more confidence and less depressed. After I relapsed I am losing tons of energy, feel tired and depressed, also reduced confidence. I dont feel as much improvement as you do, that is because everyone is different, but nofap definitely helps a lot! I am giving myself another go, learn from the mistakes!
     
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  17. ned123

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    That's the spirit mate. You must be a bit gutted but it's tough. Don't be looking at any P and start your new counter. 17 days is great. You can build on that now. And remember this - your reboot is well underway now. This is just a reset not a relapse. Make a challenge to hit the end of Jan, and then take it from there! We're only human mate. No worries!
     
  18. GBoss

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    hey i see you are from trinidad... i am too.
     
  19. Hellboy123

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    Nofap is not a cheat code.

    You still need to develop social skills, learn how to make people laugh, navigate different types of people, show your personality etc.

    Your anti-PMO period is perfect for this development. Don't just read books or the internet though, that's dangerous. Get outside, go shopping, talk to strangers, see what makes them tick, take mental notes, and keep going on and on.
     
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  20. McCaler

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    In my own opinion on this,....no. Regardless if I do successfully quit masturbating or not, I can have all the confidence in the world regardless if I masturbate or not,...women don't talk to me anyways. Even if I do confidently approach them with ease,...they are either going to 1. ignore me 2. if I talk to them, they'll be very brief with me, quit talking to me & move away from me, or 3. If a woman begins to talk to me for more than 5 minutes,...I'm in the friendzone & not coming out. No matter how you look at this,...the questionable part is "What the hell is the point?"
     

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