Guys who identify as straight but have sexual encounter with males

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by DeepSeaDiver, Apr 23, 2019.

  1. Straight porn was what your brain was expecting to get?

    Whereas gay porn your brain was not? Maybe your journey started with watching porn at all.

    Here‘s sth I posted on the issue of guys in turmoil having lost their orientation.

    Gay, Bi or not? Why me?

    Feel free to let me know your thoughts.
     
  2. JackOfAll

    JackOfAll Fapstronaut

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    So do you think that this is reversible ? To get my old drive back?
     
  3. You‘re 26. I hope so. Depends on your behavior, compulsions, addictions ...
    To drive needs energy. Overthinking is a just another waste of energy, so is PMO, drinking excessively, unhealthy food etc.

    How do you spend your days?
     
  4. JackOfAll

    JackOfAll Fapstronaut

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    Well I work full time. I currently have an amazing girlfriend, I used to go to the gym and I haven’t been in over a year due to health anxiety.. I feel that this also maybe one of the issues is not being comfortable in my own skin as I used to be. I was extremely athletic, strong and due to recent health issues I’m unable to get back into the gym. I struggle to understand how I can one day have the strong urge to masturbate to females, past sexual experiences and one day it’s vanished. My past experience have to count as me being at least mostly straight.
     
  5. You still PMO? Fantasize? Think compuslively, not being able to stop? You think of genitals rather than hearts? You see wo/men as possible sex objects?
     
  6. JackOfAll

    JackOfAll Fapstronaut

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    Yes I think of Genitals, no faces at all, no feelings nothing.
     
  7. With both? Male and female?
    PMO?
     
  8. JackOfAll

    JackOfAll Fapstronaut

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    The point is I used to be incredibly horny for women. Nothing else, I’ve craved women, had lots of sex with women, all kinds of sex with women. Not one homo thought before porn, only the odd intrusive thought which due to my OCD were likely normal (for me, these thoughts were not arousing)

    Then Years later due to severe performance anxiety, PIED and HOCD I’ve become a complete wreck.

    I do not find males attractive, never wish or wished to be emotionally involved with them or wanted to peruse any form of a relationship however my brain is constantly trying to replay the homo porn I have seen in order to get me to PMO of some form.

    I stopped fapping, I’ve done this once around 65 days in, however I do sometimes google (straight porn images, sometimes to test myself and sometimes because I’m likely still addicted to porn)
     
  9. RastkoV

    RastkoV Fapstronaut

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    Soooo.....You liked males from before, so you have looked and searched for naked images, videos, than maybe some live experiences...and the porn is guilty cause...you like dick?
    The problem is that Gay world equals something bad, yes you are gay , so what who cares? Really? People have more than enough problems to think about.
    Have safe sex, don't watch porn. Be happy.
     
  10. DeepSeaDiver

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    Cut down some of the original post. What I got out of it are two things....you’ve had lots of sexual experiences, also used porn, and now don’t feel satisfied/aroused with straightforward experiences or porn. That actually makes sense.

    As we get used to sex, masturbation and porn, our sensitivity to it goes down. Specifically with PMO, the more we do it, the more inclined we are to explore new areas of sexuality.

    It sounds like you enjoy females but can’t get aroused like you did when you were 16 or 20. That’s normal. You can cut out the porn and get some of this drive back. That should rekindle the connection you have with your girlfriend and make sex more satisfying.

    The OCD and other symptoms or diagnoses you have would probably be addressed separately by a medical doctor.
     
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  11. FrankMorris

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    Went to bed with a bi-sexual man. Went to hug him, as soon as he started getting lustful, I knew I was straight and wasn't going to proceed. He was good about it. It was at a LGBT party. I'm straight, but always had questions about sexual identity. It's ridiculous how much homophobia there is in the world, usually because men and women cannot tolerate anything opposing hetero-sexuality
     
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