Had Femdom issues. What if I use some of its tactics to my advantage now?

Does your girlfriend know you have femdom? If not, I don't think she will like it. Maybe she will accept the idea because you are her partner but here is my opinion:

You have got a chance to correct your fetish.. To reduce its sensitivity to be nothing or something little considerable to the rest of intimacy.

Stay away from all porn videos. Masturbation and fantasizing. These three things will keep you in the femdom trap, they will increase the sensitivity and will hardwire your ED.

I am not saying to supress from the feeling of being into that... It takes time.. But make sure what you are doing is a fit for a real relationship that keeps you a husband and a father.

 

This may help you:

 

I don't know the answer, but my instinct from my time on here and watching porn addiction videos and articles is that it's not the best strategy. I think refraining from masturbation and edging would be ideal and focusing on building a real world connection with your partner without needing pictures or a screen to masturbate or edge. It sounds like you need masturbation to maintain an erection and instead of masturbating over a stranger youre going to masturbate over your gf - but I think the outcome will be the same. If you keep masturbating then you will need more masturbation. You also run the risk of needing other material to edge to. My advice is to cut off the masturbation and give your brain and body time to get aroused from a normal relationship.

 

femdom prostitutes are only in it for the money. They are actually broke and basically beg strangers for money trough clips which also humiliate themselves(the clothes they use are proper for a clown,really).
So, you are actually holding power if you pay for it? Dont pay for it..but realize that they -the femdom woman- is the one in a desperate situation making a fool out of herself to make a living.

 

One thing about the femdom/findom community that I've seen is that a lot of them are in or have been in very bad relationships or suffer from mental illness themselves. Beyond just looking for easy money, some of them enjoy inflicting the same type of emotional pain to men that they themselves have been the victim of.

 

I see your logic but think it's misguided.

Stop edging. Just stop. It is unnatural, and even you understand its role as a means of torment and compliance.

It also puts your cardiovascular system through a lot of stress, which is what I suspect your real problem is. It takes a lot to maintain an erection for hours.

Stop PMO for a bit and do some cardio. In my own limited experience with ED, after a month of heavy cardio, it became a non-issue.

As for the girl, everyone claims to be woke about tolerance and mental health awareness these days. Blame ED on your SSRIs and say you're trying to switch to a new one. This is actually very common and should buy you some time.

 

I agree with others and this seems like an elaborate rationalisation to restart your addiction. (Not picking on you, we're all addicts or former addicts here).

If you haven't used for three weeks then you're already free. Celebrate!

The temporary dopamine withdrawal symptoms should be gone by now.

Relax, cuddle your girl, eat healthy, work out and get plenty of sleep. Your body will catch up in no time.

 

What I am trying to say is ED is caused due to PMO regardless your fetish. The brain of Porn/masturbation consumers is hardwired to sex through pixels, magazines, imagination. But not real sex. This is why ED happens. Your brain doesn't know what it is supposed to do when you want to climax in bed. So when you use femdom techniques in this you are building another pathway and hardening it which will make you able to climax only by using such materials.. It could mess up things.

So what is the solution?

1- Give up all the PMO from all sources, pictures, screens, imagination.

2- Have a healthy lifestyle.

3- Slowly work on wiring your brain with your real relationship.. With your partner. By time your brain will start sensing it and then ED will eventually be resolved.

 

Sorry to say but this sounds like bs. You can't replicate the hypno videos with a single picture and some imagination. It will just get boring and lead you back into pornography. The same reason why our old playboy magazines didn't do it for us anymore when they were used up.

I think your idea to use this technique just shows your desire for the sort of pornography you were describing. I'd go for a long NF streak.


I get the performance anxiety but a car is maybe a difficult place in general for someone who's new to sex. Don't beat yourself to much up on it.

How far are you in your NF streak?