I’m a 23 year old male so I’m a little late when it comes to dating and having a sex life. I started dating this girl and I couldn’t believe I was about to have sex because as a prior porn addict that’s what I was dreaming of for years and could only dream of. But now after years of being clean I finally got to have sex for the first time with someone I’m actually interested in and I was incredibly surprised by how I felt after. I thought I’d feel like a god after, like the man, like I could walk down the street and everyone would be giving me daps kind of vibe going on. But actually... I felt exactly the same as I did right before I lost my virginity. There was literally zero change in who I was as a person and how I felt. It’s almost as if it didn’t even happen because you couldn’t tell it from my demeanor. Still the same guy, still the same motivations, no spike in feelings or feeling like I’m some god now. I felt basically the same just now I can say “Hey..I’ve had sex before” that’s literally the only difference. So for the guys here who haven’t lost their virginity yet and are striving to because they feel like it is the ultimate goal in life it really isn’t all that. Don’t get me wrong though sex is incredibly fun and I’m not discrediting the experience of it. It’s just that don’t expect it to change you as a person and to be someone completely new after. It’s just an awesome experience and not some goal you should be stressing over night and day about. After having sex yourself you’ll realize it's not that big a deal and wish you had just realized this much sooner.