Handling my ex

look like you have got yourself a good motivation to not relapse, hope you succeed in your endeavor brother-man.

 

Is not cheating. Is something that you liked to do in your free-alone time. She can accept it or not. Never change the way you are because other person tell you to do it.
There are woman that don't give a f*k about porn, there are woman also that enjoy it.

Everything with moderation is ok. You can watch porn, eat junk fund, smoke a cigarrette once or twice per month and it's perfectly fine. But if you do it daily then yes, is not normal and it became an addiction.

She wans't that into you then, when a woman is in-love with you she will do everything to be with you, even if it is to be in a long distance relationship.. is not the case that she when to live in another country and you will be in a long relationship for life.. but it would be just a few months.. if she was not willing to wait then she wasn't that into you... that's the hard truth.

Woman will always tell you that... you as a man go after what you want, your time is valuable. If you want to kiss her and touch her goi for it. If she is not into that she is goin to say NO. In that case don't waste more time with her, ideally you want a woman that is happy to kiss you back. never way for a woman permission, go after what you want and if she don't want to kiss you back.. then walk away and look for a woman that is really into you.

Why? you need to kiss her and make her try to resist to kiss you. You are the man, go for it. She is not going to tell you to kiss her, you are the man. It's your job to do it. She is going to facilitate you do it, by hanging together, been close to you and looking for excuses to touch you.

NEVER ask for a kiss.. go for it. If she don't want it she is going to turn her head. Asking for a kiss is making you look really weak in her eyes.. Remember, would James Bond ask for a womans kiss??? no way, he will kiss her directly. Be confident and go for it.

That's when you progress things.. hugh her strong.. have fun with her. Kiss her more, let her cut the nigth. Maybe she can invite you over. But if you cut the kisses then you are the one cutting the nigth short.

She likes you of course, she want's more of that. next time act confident and go for it.

That is a bad as it can get.. a woman is a compliment to your life, not your focus. go after your goals and dreams, and in your free times call her to have a date with her.

You already put her in a pedestal. SHE dumped you when the lockdown hit. Why are you so desparate to get back with her after she dumped you when the quarentine get things a little complicated? she need to work to get a second chance with you, you have the wrong mentality here. Put her out of that pedestal, date other woman if you want and let her work to get you back. You are already afraid to f*k it up... you are totally in her hands, she have all the power in the relationship. You are the tipicall nice guy, the typicall pleaser that is going to do anything she wants.. don't be that guy.. is not going to end well for you.

More nice guy. Don't apologyze for something it was ok for you in the moment. You are not responsable for her feelings. If she is not into you doing porn.. then is her choice to leave. If you are now in nofap and not doing porn you can tell her that as just a comment, like is something that you are chaging in your life and that's it.

You really need to change your aproach and the way you look and behave around woman. Remember nice guys finish last and you are definitevely one.

 

Hope everything works out for you but if this women keeps brining up porn viewing again its time to move on . Some women cannot let go of the past and forgive.

 

I might have missed it but did you reboot yourself? How many days? It could work but IMO a women scorned never gets over it.

At some point you likely will want to mix in some sex stuff in your life that is less passionate and more “interesting” and that is OKAY because you will know the difference, know how to regulate, and most importantly appreciate and enjoy passionate sex.

My issue is that could bring up the past and would lead to resentments on both ends. Remember, she is also traumatized whether she knows it or not or how bad.

In a new relationship you can have a healthy sex life from the start.

Just my opinion tho. She could be very cool and you all could be on the same page moving ahead. Best of luck!