Happy 2018! Hi, 18y/o newbie here...

Matt11

Matt11

Fapstronaut
Hi everyone,

To start with, I am a 18 year old male from Australia. I've been using pornography on and off for the last 2 years. In 2016 I was using it a lot. In 2017 the usage varied, but it ranged from every day, every few days to just the end of 2017 where it was only like once every week or two weeks. It has been interfering with my studies and social life and has led to a huge lack of confidence and I have always had a severe lack of energy or motivation to do anything really.

I have decided to start the new year of 2018 (happy new year everyone) by getting control of my PMO addiction. I will be posting in the AP section soon enough, but I am interested in getting an AP for support and companionship. I can have a strange way of talking, if so, sorry - feel free to give me pointers so I can improve my social and communication skills.

You are welcome to say Hi and everything else (you don't have to be from Australia to offer support), I am new to the community and am actively looking around and learning how to use the forums properly.
 
Hi
Thanks for being here. Welcome!
Leaving an addictive habit is not an easy job, but .... it will be fully worth it.
So... get some knowledge, read stories, let yourself encouraged by others.
You are not alone in this. So connecting to others is a clue as well!
And don't forget to create a journal.
Writing about your daily stuff may really help you to process the issues.
Good luck!
 
One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147264/
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@Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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@Dragonnlife Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148
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@I_can_and_I_will Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138959/
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@weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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@MLMVSS Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/142945/
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@Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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@BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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@Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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@kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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@tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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@Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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@Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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@DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
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@Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
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@BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
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@LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
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@Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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@Former_CD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/87827/
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@PatrickR Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

- L
 
Matt11 said:
I am new to the community and am actively looking around and learning how to use the forums properly.
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Hey @Matt11 ,

There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

Learn the NoFap Program
The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

They are:

You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

Get Involved with the Community
The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

I'm nobody important around here. Just a normal user with no magic powers.

But, I can:

  • Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH
  • Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles
  • Pick a forum and make sure evvery post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.
  • Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

- L

PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.
 
StopTheMusic said:
Hey @Matt11 ,

There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

Learn the NoFap Program
The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

They are:

You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

Get Involved with the Community
The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

I'm nobody important around here. Just a normal user with no magic powers.

But, I can:

  • Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH
  • Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles
  • Pick a forum and make sure evvery post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.
  • Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

- L

PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.
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Thanks. I've read most of the documentation (just a matter of remembering it now). I especially like the wolf analogy.
 
StopTheMusic said:
One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147264/
---
@Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
---
@Dragonnlife Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148
---
@I_can_and_I_will Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138959/
---
@weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
---
@MLMVSS Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/142945/
---
@Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
---
@BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
---
@Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
---
@kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
---
@tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
---
@Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
---
@Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
---
@DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
---
@Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
---
@BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
---
@LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
---
@Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
---
@Former_CD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/87827/
---
@PatrickR Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/
---

There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

- L
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Thank you, I'll get to reading the journals. Lots to read and yes, great place to start.
 
2525 said:
Welcome to NoFap!

NoFap is a comprehensive community-based porn recovery website.

We offer all the tools our users need to connect with a supportive community of individuals determined to quit porn use and free themselves from compulsive sexual behaviors. We refer to the process of recovering from porn addiction as "rebooting". Research has shown that heavy porn use can change the neural pathways of the brain causing addiction, hormonal changes, and sexual dysfunction. The rebooting process is intended to restore these neural pathways to factory settings, so to speak.


Firstly, I suggest you to read these two official pages :

- What is Porn Addiction?
- Rebooting from Porn Addiction


Secondly, I suggest you to pick up one of these challenges :

- The 7 Days Challenge
- The 14 Days Challenge
- The 21 Days Challenge
- The 30 Days Challenge
- The 60 Days Challenge
- The 90 Days Challenge
- The 365 Days Challenge


And third, I suggest you to take a look at these threads :

- 50+ Habits for a Successful Reboot
- Daily Intention Thread : "Today I will not use porn because..."
- A question about your reboot? Get a fast reply!
- The 3 Most Common Mistakes


After all of this, you should be able to have an important understanding of what is Porn Addiction and how to start your own reboot with maximizing your chance of success.

I sincerely wish you all the best, and if you need anything concerning a moderation issue, make sure to send me a Private Message.

Best regards,
2525
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Hi @2525, thank you very much. I'll PM you if I have any issues. I've read some of those threads and I am part of the 7 days challenge (I think, I will check again).
 
Roady said:
Hi
Thanks for being here. Welcome!
Leaving an addictive habit is not an easy job, but .... it will be fully worth it.
So... get some knowledge, read stories, let yourself encouraged by others.
You are not alone in this. So connecting to others is a clue as well!
And don't forget to create a journal.
Writing about your daily stuff may really help you to process the issues.
Good luck!
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It was addictive yes. Fighting some urges from time to time. After I've joined I have removed a lot of content, links and stuff that could influence PMO and I have disabled NSFW content so that should help too! The best thing I have learned is to keep busy or find a hobby as we know the 'idle hands' is risky.
 
Roady said:
Hi
Thanks for being here. Welcome!
Leaving an addictive habit is not an easy job, but .... it will be fully worth it.
So... get some knowledge, read stories, let yourself encouraged by others.
You are not alone in this. So connecting to others is a clue as well!
And don't forget to create a journal.
Writing about your daily stuff may really help you to process the issues.
Good luck!
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What sort of stuff goes in my journal and how do I start it and each entry?
 
Well you can create a thread here then that's called " your journal".
You can for example add a post every day to that journal, sharing what you want.
Sharing how you feel, what urges you experienced that day, sharing the nice things, whatever you want.
But don't do it because I mentioned it, but do it because you see some benefits by yourself.
 
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