Hard mode with girls

It depends on what you want and how bad the ED is.

Hard mode is good if you can't get it up with your GF

I still have sex with my GF because I can not get it up the second time round. It helps with rewiring. I'm now getting a lot more turned on by her.

How bad is your PIED?

 

don't worry about it just let the girl know and have fun with her. if you aren't having fun or afraid then it's not worth it because sex is meant for building relationships closer not further away. you should feel safe. if not then it isn't the right time or the right person. be patient

 

I would do hardmode to be honest. I would say if you do want sex, make sure she is NOT masturbating you or giving you a blow job. You want to rewire to her vagina.

I think foreplay is good but do not worry if you can't get it up. Remind her it's all the porn images in your head. It's hard, but you have to be 100 percent honest and keep her up to date on whats happening. This honesty will relax you, giving you less stress for more erections. If you have relapsed, tell her, again this will relax you and help you stop the relapse. If she is not okay with the situation, it's best to let her go. Maybe it's just not the right time for you. Most girls will stick around, as long as they get a sense that you really care and love them. If she wants to have sex with you, it means shes really into you.

If your naked and you can't get it up, just hold her and talk to her. You want to be in a relax state of mind. Remember you have all the time in the world. You might get it up half an hour later or an hour later. Talk about every day things. Talk about things that relaxes you and brings you closer together.

Giving her foreplay is good. Over time, your sense will come back. Do not worry if you feel dead inside, your sense will come back. Take the time to appreciate and smell her body. DO NOT M DURING SEX. If it's small, let it remain small. Do not force it.

With hardmode, I feel kissing and cuddling is good. I wouldn't kiss in the bedroom. I would kiss in pubic places. Don't make it too sexual either.

Things to tell her: Tell her I love you, Tell her I like being with you. Tell her you make me feel comfortable when I'm around you. Even though I'm not hard, I love kissing you and I like foreplay. I love sex but it's the shitty porn urges. You make me feel so happy. I love you hair. I love your smile.

I think it's more important to be more romantic than ever. Do more romantic stuff together. Porn has turned women into objects. To change that mindset, you need to be more romantic.