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Hard to Forgive Ourselves

For Fapstronauts who are disciples of Christ

  1. MendedSoul18

    MendedSoul18 New Fapstronaut

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    I spent several years in a Christian 12 step group (Celebrate Recovery), in weekly mens' small group and in the more intense Step Study, frequently we all talked about the need to forgive ourselves, just as we had forgiven others who had hurt us. I know for myself, it was hard to forgive myself, because I knew it wouldn't be very long before I looked at porn and masturbated.

    Do any of the rest of you, have similar experience?
     
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  2. I'm currently in SAA and can relate. I go through bouts of feeling shame for the stuff I used to do. I remember walking in the woods a year ago, stopping and getting down on my knees to ask God for forgiveness. It seems as though self-forgiveness, and forgiveness in general is a process. Whats helped me recently is a talk by the priest Father Thomas Keating where he said something to the effect 'God knows people mess up and he doesn't mind it at all'

    I share your concern about relapsing; although I've found confidence in going so long without it, I am acutely aware everyday that its only 5 degrees away from me at any given time. I struggle with lusting and objectification as well as anxiety. But I don't want to end this on a down note because I see too many glimmers of hope to do that. God is good all the time.
     
    Last edited: Dec 16, 2018
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  3. Colin75

    Colin75 Fapstronaut

    Yes i too find it hard to accept. As i sure dont deserve forgiveness! Isnt the Lord amazing!! Colin.
     

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