(warning - might be triggering to some): Yesterday I had some intimate time with my wife and as these things go I ended up O'ing. Rebooting while in a relationship is a very tricky and confusing thing. When you O you feel happy that its guilt free and done in the right way (unless you fantasize about P - in which case STOP!). However, at the same time you still feel unhappy because you cannot shake off the feeling that its hindering your progress and that it shouldn't happen (until 90 days at least). Unfortunately I always have a tendency of believing in extreme instructions like go hard or go home, so in the back of my head I keep thinking that to fix this I need to go hard mode. It is the only way to move forward. When I spoke to my wife about this in one of my previous attempts, she was supportive in my decision not to O. Unfortunately when things get serious we both throw that out of the window. Afterwards when we both get some sense back she always asks how come I O'ed, and I try to play it off like its not a big deal so that she doesn't feel bad. Now I am trying to limit our intimate time to twice a week, but I don't think that's the issue. I think the issue is being able to stick to the decision of not O'ing. Obviously I know there are ways of satisfying each other without me having to O, but again, judgement is very clouded when things get going. Would be interested to hear your opinions.