Has anyone else, Gotten an increased sex drive, when they quit PM?

stmos

stmos

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So, so whenever I go over a certain number of days, usually about five. My sex drive goes through the roof. Even when I’m supposed to have entered “the flat line” . At about 14 to 21 days I’m still having very strong erections. The weird thing is my urges are not as strong to use PM, but my desire to have sex with my wife increases. To a point that if allowed all I would do is have sex with her all day.
What was funny is the porn I used all looked like my wife, very similar body shape and size. So it’s just kind of weird now I never seem to enter any sort of state where my penis doesn’t work instead I just keep getting horny and want to have sex with my wife more. I can see this is becoming a problem, because if my wife doesn’t wanna have sex. That’s gonna leave me frustrated and a few days of that that makes me even more vulnerable to start looking other places.

Has anyone else experienced this before? Is this normal in a relationship to have an extremely high libido that increases over the time. You’re supposed to go into a flat line.
 
Sanitarium (Welcome Home) said:
I guess you're under 40 years old, right? And your brain is deeply wired into sexualization due to the big baggage of PM... no suprise then.
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Unfortunately, I’m over 40. I discontinued a benzo that I was taking for anxiety, which I know can sometimes decrease libido, but it just seems to be getting more and more the longer and longer I go without PM.
Not having sex with my wife is not on the table. Because my wife and I have learned that if we don’t have sex at least twice a week we end up having problems in our marriage. And have a lot more fights. However, since I stopped PMing it’s more like five times a week and sometimes two times a day.
 
Man I wish this was the case with my husband. Maybe he will get there. Idk we never gone over 5 days. Maybe 6. But he was PMO when we went that long. Now 52 hours was the longest… until now. Mandatory no sex no M for testing purposes. Ugh. It’s going to be a long week.
 
Sad_wife said:
Man I wish this was the case with my husband. Maybe he will get there. Idk we never gone over 5 days. Maybe 6. But he was PMO when we went that long. Now 52 hours was the longest… until now. Mandatory no sex no M for testing purposes. Ugh. It’s going to be a long week.
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Yeah, those testing periods are hard, I don’t know if I could make it this time around.
When I talked with my wife about this, she said she’s actually fine with the increased sexual attention, she just really wants me to schedule it. I still worry though because I think she’s OK with it now, but I don’t know if this is a permanent thing or not.
I mean, I do love having sex with her, but I don’t know if she’s gonna keep loving having sex with me five times a week lol.
 
My husband is in his 30's and has always had a very high libido and urges to masturbate. Normally after 2-3 days if he even made it that long he would be getting very aroused and I think 5 days is about the longest he had gone. He had tried to cut back a little a few times but was generally masturbating daily.

Last year he started on an SSRI medication for anxiety and this really affected his drive. It's actually been very helpful as he just doesn't get any urges to masturbate at the moment and he lasts a long long time during sex.
 
legendracer79 said:
My husband is in his 30's and has always had a very high libido and urges to masturbate. Normally after 2-3 days if he even made it that long he would be getting very aroused and I think 5 days is about the longest he had gone. He had tried to cut back a little a few times but was generally masturbating daily.

Last year he started on an SSRI medication for anxiety and this really affected his drive. It's actually been very helpful as he just doesn't get any urges to masturbate at the moment and he lasts a long long time during sex.
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Yeah, I can confirm that. I also used to have high libido due to the sexualized mind. Since february this year I had taken SSRIs during my psychotherapy till October. Now my libido is almost zero. It brought me anxity at first, but then I realized I can easily get hard just by laying my head on my wife's laps, and the morning woods are there. So looks like my mind has rewired toward normal sexualization level. I am glad to be aroused by my wife and not by pixels on the screen. I still struggle with urges to watch erotic videos from time to time, but they have been fading away quickly. What else helps me just enooooormously - reading. When I am reading a book I can smeel its paper and ink, I hear sounds from the street, I feel calm and relaxed and I don't have need to have a boner at that moment. Works very well for me.
Have a nice day.
 
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