Has porn made me gay?!!

Well, sexuality is more like a spectrum than a this or that thing. It's common for the urges of porn to get so strong and want so much novelty that even watching different types of girls isn't enough, you actually start watching porn that doesn't necessarily align with your sexuality. The thing here is, this didn't end with simply watching different kinds of porn, you actually have had several gay experiences and went on a gay dating app for fun which just seems like a whole 'nother thing separate from porn and it makes me wonder why you feel you're straight. I used to think me watching gay porn/trans porn occasionally was a symptom of porn making me watch stuff that goes against my sexuality, but then I reflected and realized I was always open to being with guys and girls even going back to childhood before porn, and I never really saw being attracted to transgender people as against my sexuality because a trans woman is still a woman, so even if I was straight(I'm not, I'm bi but just making a point) it doesn't necessarily go against that. I can't say that is the case for you because you know your life best but being straight your whole life up to 22 isn't a long time. I'd put less emphasis on the labels of straight, gay, bi, etc and focus more on how do you feel in general. When these labels don't exist, who are you at your core? What do you value and find attractive in a partner? What are your feelings on being attracted to men when you put aside what society has to say about that?

Don't get me wrong, it could be the part of you that craves porn that has made you experiment sexually, and you may genuinely just be a straight guy who is very hooked on sexual release. I'm just saying there's no shame either way and it's fine to want to experience other things and see what you really want in life. On this website we have a tendency to point the finger at porn for a lot of our problems but it might be worth trying to reflect on other potential reasons you went down this route, maybe even with a therapist specialized in sexual/lgbtq topics.

 

banging dudes is all good bruh.
most people here believe that escalation leads to confusion about sexuality, and that external agents like porn can change what you're into.
My opinion is that trans/sissy/gay porn just make it easier to get closer to what you might be into in real life.
Its also normal to feel like sex with women is more natural, to anyone it is, we live in a heteronormative culture, gay people, even if they're relatively accepted, are still marginalized, especially in cultural or religious families/communities.

 

Just do a full 90+ day reboot and if you find trans people still attractive then you might be gay.

 

Check out my story at Am I a Sissy?? (Actually a good story with happy ending, trust me, read the whole thing)
Very similar circumstances to you

Also check out these articles from YBOP:

Evolution has not prepared your brain for today’s porn

Porn FAQs

Articles

I’m straight, but attracted to transsexual or gay porn (or gay attracted to straight porn). What’s up?

‘Straight Men, Gay Porn’ and Other Brain Map Mysteries (2010)

What benefits do people see as they reboot?

How do I know when I’m back to normal?

Why did my porn use escalate?

What are the symptoms of excessive Internet porn use?

I’m not an addict. What happens if I “reboot?”

 

I believe you can be mostly straight and still maybe wanna bang guys…..if theyre the only option easily available. Though a 100% straight guy would never hook up with a guy.

 

Il est clair que c'est une escalade de porno pose toi une seule question
Si tu n'aurai jamais regarder de porno serais tu arrivera à regarder du porno trans ou gay
LLa découverte de nouveau genre est simplement du au fait que tu a commencé par du porno

 

The effect of porn is massive on one's life

yes it can alter a man's sexual orientation easily, so many of us here struggle with it... including me,

some people give up and go down with having a relationship with the same gender, which in all honesty isn't really worthy of your time, having a girl of your own comes with a real joy as it's a healthy relationship that lasts as long as you want it to, the joy all gay couples pretend to have in porn and through camera lens, but then again, you always can choose the path the suits you the most,
isn't god so fair? you always have the right to choose, no one forces you

Or maybe you should take the 90 day challenge, after getting to 90 days, take an even longer streak to really clear and flush your mind from all the porn you've consumed, and really think about your morals and what you want in life, change is possible, forever and always, you just have to know what you seek in life the most.

 

Hello friend. This case is seen often in the NoFap community. The type of porn you watch can morph your sexuality, it has been proven countless times. This correlates to the HOCD as well. You stated that sexual intercourse with the same gender did not feel fine at first, but then became business as usual later. This is a sign I think you are not gay, but just influenced by the dopamine release from something new especially at your age. I would recommend doing a 90 day no PMO reboot and possibly increasing the streak eventually. I would also recommend taking life a bit slow and relaxed and feel out what it is you actually want. Meditation and self improvement such as exercising can work. Maybe even learn how to make tea to soothe your mind

If you require any help you have all the resources here, and everyone is willing to help. Good luck with your journey friend.

 

Tastes in porn should be taken with a grain of salt, because porn often lead to areas we would never otherwise explore irl. Obviously we are also drawn to stuff that is natural to us. I think that it is good to examine if we had in the past some real life attractions outside of porn, if we are unsure about certain interest.

 

Gonna say something that's maybe a little bit controversial, but no offence is intended to anyone.

You're only doing stuff with guys because you have had issues with girls. As soon as you start dating a girl properly or are able to have sexual relations with them, you wont want to do this anymore. The stereotype that men are more straightforward sexually is kinda true in this case, you could put the same profile on a straight dating app and a gay dating app and get way more results on the gay version almost every time. Men are just that willing to cut to the chase. I suppose if you actually are gay/bi and want to be promiscuous, then that's great. But for a porn addict it's just another step of escalation.

I dont know if anyone has seen the movie "Shame" with Michael Fassbender. It's about a man who becomes addicted to various sexual outlets and in it, he too engages in gay acts because he's desperate to feel something after his usual tricks dont work. This is all that is happening to you. Cold turkey is needed to reenergise your "default" state.

 

The type of porn you jerk off to DOES NOT determine your sexual orientation. You know yourself better than any of us. If after a full reboot you still want to bang guys then go for it. But porn absolutely can and will twist and manipulate your brain into thinking you're into something that truly you may not be, you may just be deep in the pit of the addiction, and need a step back to truly see it from an outside perspective. Hope this helps! Stay strong!

 

Research "situational homosexuality" and then get back to me on that one. For example, men in prison turn to gay sex not because they are all secretly in the closet, but because no women are available and they have to satisfy sexual desires in some way. In OP's post, he says he only did what he did because he was having a hard time with women and was lonely. This is situational homosexuality.

Not everything is about the bible. Maybe the reason OP feels shame about his acts is because they are not compatible with his physical attractions. He says he does not feel attracted to men.

OP has stated he experienced all this as a result of being desensitised. The not politically-correct way of looking at this is that he doesnt really want to have sex with men because he likes them, but because his monkey brain wants something to stick his penis into. The fact he is reporting feeling much better with girls after only a short streak confirms this imo.

 

When I first found out about NoFap, this was an incredibly common issue-- presented as an issue. "My porn does not equal my sexuality"-- this was a common staple. Nowadays, it's always a debate, and the only time that people recognize it as a problem is if it's "escalated" to child porn. Before they hit that awful level, everyone will sit there and try to groom users into believing they should stay gay after they've been groomed by porn into having fetishes outside of their normal window.

This has nothing to do with actually gay people, by the way. But it seems like if someone branches outside of their sexuality and it makes them uncomfortable, and it's even unwanted, we probably shouldn't be telling them to "suck it up, buttercup" so that other users can start their grooming process.

 

I'm honestly baffled by the way attitudes have shifted on this site over the last couple of years. It's like we've gone from agreeing porn is a negative influence that can mess with your brain and perception of reality, to just saying "fuck it, doesn't matter, do things that make you ashamed, it's muh current year" and it honestly kinda makes me sick. Not because I have anything against non-straight people, but because this has NOTHING to do with that, and everything to do with porn influencing people on a massive scale. Escalation is a very real problem. Not just in the realm of sex addiction but in general human psychology. If I have to explain this many more times I feel like I might explode lmfao.

 

No straight man would accept a blowjob from a guy and would never have intercourse with a guy.

You are bisexual, as simple as that.

The reason I say this is because you wanted to and willingly engaged in a sexual act with a guy.
But if you feel straight, then you feel straight, as simple as that. If you don't feel bi or gay, go on with your life and only have relationship with girls and live the life you want and not the life your brain wants you to partake.

 

This forum will be probably worthless in few years. The worst offenders aren't even gay guys, but straight people. Most gay people are using this forum like everyone else and are not hocd denialists.