Have sex and can climax but...

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by LeatherLover, Feb 4, 2015.

  1. LeatherLover

    LeatherLover New Fapstronaut

    I ave decided to try NoFap because, even though I do have sex with my girlfriend and I climax (OK, a bit earlier than she would like if I am honest) I simply don't enjoy it. Because I don't enjoy sex with her I rarely want it which she is obviously upset about.

    Is anyone else in a similar position?

    from my Newbie Introduction:
    So, I have decided to try this for at least 90 days. But why?

    I was in a long term but practically sex-less relationships for over 10 years (100% no sexual contact for the last 3 years of it). As she never wanted sex I relied more and more on porn. I never really felt I had a problem as I had no other sexual outlet (I will never cheat on someone!).

    Fast forward to now. I have been with my current partner for a few years and we have lived together for the last 2 years. She has a normal sex drive and gets frustrated because I am simply not interested in sex with her. When we do have sex, maybe once or twice a month, I simply don't enjoy it.

    I am not sure if it is just the fap that has caused these issues for me or another psychological problem but I thought it was worth a go.

    Any, help/advice etc is very much welcome! So please feel free to get in touch.
  2. db_dan

    db_dan Fapstronaut

    Hey LL,

    I've definitely been in that situation. I remember with a girl I dated for a while in college, [NSFW]I was having sex with her all the time, but never really enjoying it. honestly i wished i could tell her and just have her go away but i knew it would hurt her feelings. I remember a few times, i'd be getting her from behind and i'd just start looking around the room, thinking about homework or video games or food or whatever. then i'd look down and be like 'so this is what my life is? just having sex with this girl i don't really care about?[/NSFW]

    I've had the cycle repeat a few times. But I'm married now and I love my wife so much that sex is great with her. But I know where you've been. It feels so empty and confusing to be having sex and not even feel interested in it. To climax and be like 'okay well i guess thats that, time to go do something else'.

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