Have you ever friend zoned a girl?

I’ll give you my experiences as a woman. Most of the guys that “friendzoned” me only wanted sex and didn’t care about anything else, then rejected me when I wanted to actually have a relationship.

But here’s one with my fiance. I’m not sure if it was friendzoning or just overall lack of confidence.

But my fiance, I had a crush on for, like, forever. He was confident and overall attractive but also pretty nice. When we were in school, I would purposely ask him for help with homework even though I knew the answers just so I could spend time with him. A few times when he was sick, I made soup and stuff for him, and for his birthday I would make cookies or brownies or something. But through all of that, he never got the hint. Every time we talked, he’d complain that girls weren’t into him. Every time, I was like, Seriously dude?!

It wasn’t until we were in his car one day. We were listening to my phone on his stereo, when an extremely graphic and sexual audiobook I was listening to began playing.

He bursted out laughing. Of course. It was to the point where I swear we were gonna crash from his laughing. Meanwhile, I try turning my phone off, but my phone was freezing up and wouldn’t respond. In my panic, I didn’t even realize to turn off the radio.

I played an erotic novel’s sex scene with my crush. That was probably the most embarrassed I’ve ever been in my life. If the car wasn’t moving, I probably would’ve gotten out of there and ran immediately! I still get chills today just thinking about it!

After 5 minutes of embarrassment, we pull over to my apartment (I think). He was still giving me this stupid grin as I was telling him that I was trying to give that up. Then we spent the next hour or so just sitting there in his car, talking about porn and religion and other stuff.

After that, he suddenly started liking me. Then I found out a month later that he has his own PMO issues. So, I’m not sure if he wasn’t confident around me because of his PMO issues until he found out I had the same, or if he was legit friendzoning me all that time. Or if he was just getting the hints.

Morals: if a girl makes something for you, she probably likes you. Also, I just happened to be lucky, but keep your phone porn-free!!!

 

Yes

 

Yes but I hate the term “friend zone” since it puts a negative connotation on a necessary component of a healthy relationship which is friendship. I personally just call it what it is and that’s romantic rejection. I’ve mainly done this because the women have had opposing fundamental beliefs that I know would not make for a strong relationship in the future.

 

Ugh, right? That’s my biggest annoyance I have with people who cry about being friendzoned. I “friendzoned” several guys because I knew any relationship wouldn’t survive with them, and to me, I rather reject a relationship than to have everything come crashing down and burning inevitably.

 

I completely agree with you! I really hate that term. I also generally hear it used when a guy is annoyed that a girl isn't into him, like she owes him romantic reciprocation or something. So that always irks me. Nobody owes you anything.

I guess I've "friendzoned" lots of people. But as Augie mentioned, I'm not sure what the difference is between "friendzoning" someone or just rejecting their romantic interest. Because I've definitely done the latter a lot.

One person in particular pops into mind when talking about friendzoning, because we've had such a strange relationship over the years. He was really really into me, but on my end, I wasn't romantically attracted to him. But he was such a good person "on paper," so to speak, so I tried to force my feelings, and it just didn't work out. That's really the only romantic situation I feel regretful about, because I kept going back and forth, thinking "I dont know, maybe last time I was just being too focused on looks or something, or not in the right place, so maybe it'll work out this time." But then it wouldn't, again, and he would be hurt, again. It didn't help that he continued to hang around and pursue me a lot, even after I told him many many times that I wasn't into him.

Now that I'm older, I can see that the wisest thing for me to have done, that would have been kindest to him in the long run, would have been to be more firm and tell him definitively that I'm not ever going to be interested in him and that he should move on. But at the time, I was a pretty passive person and I didn't want to hurt his feelings, and there was still a part of me that thought it might work out or something. But yeah, it never did.

So I guess that's friendzoning? But I don't think it's a negative thing. You can't force your feelings, and you can't demand someone return your romantic interest. So if they don't like you, that's just life. You gotta find someone who does.

 

I was definitely friendzoned by my husband, though. Lol when we met, he was realllllly into this girl who wasn't into him. So I wasn't even an option in his mind, despite how obviously I liked him, because his eyes were completely fixed on that other person. But thankfully for both of us, he eventually let go of that other girl who wasn't into him and realized that I'm pretty awesome

 

I like a typical jerk guy friend-zoned or worse many girls after I was rejected for sex. I'm so glad to be married now. It has made me a better person. Until I got married I would never ever be just friends with a girl with out benefits. what creep I guess.

 

I too hate the “friend zone” term and yes, I have friended females. There is one in particular. She was a former coworker (so strike one there) but after we got to know each other, we connected quite well and could have good conversation and we shared quite a bit with each other over the years. My impulsive side wanted to ask her out but my rational side said wait a second. We were too different on fundamental things and anything long term wouldn’t have worked out. I respected each of us and our friendship to screw that up. She has since gotten married and had two kids. We kept in touch even though she moved away. We actually met up for dinner last year when I was in town for work. We had a great time just chatting and hanging out like the old times. Deep down I still kinda like her but the respect is greater. So, it is possible to “friend zone” someone and not do it for sexual reasons. Perhaps I’m just the oddball who does that though, lol.

 

Yes. I find I do it to protect the ladies who like me, not because I don’t like them.

 

I dont consider the friend zone a place cuz I got "friend zones" like 5 years ago but I'm dsting her now soooooo

 

What a chad.

They never show interest in me.

I'd be ecstatic if they tried to make moves on me.

 

Yes, when I was a kid. And apparently when I was a teen, if you count being oblivious about it.

 

Yes.

 

I take back what I said, the friend zone exists, BUT only for people who are in a relationship, single people dont have a friend zone