Having a girl over for the first time, how can I quell my fears?

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kdonley2332

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I am a porn and masturbation addict of over 10 years. It has greatly impacted my ability to date and have relationships with women. In the past, I have experienced ED while being in bed with women although many of those times I drank myself to the point where I wouldn't have been able to perform regardless. About a month and 3 weeks ago i quit porn, and then last week i lapsed twice. I have been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks and we've been on 4 great dates. She is coming over to my apartment tonight for the first time and I can't control the anxiety and fear that I have of letting her and myself down sexually. I really like this girl and I don't know how to express my fears or my issues to her without her losing respect for me. Can someone help me about what I can potentially do or what has maybe worked for some in the past?
 
kdonley2332 said:
Soy adicto al porno y a la masturbación desde hace más de 10 años. Ha tenido un gran impacto en mi capacidad para tener citas y relaciones con mujeres. En el pasado, experimenté disfunción eréctil mientras estaba en la cama con mujeres, aunque muchas de esas veces bebí hasta el punto de que no habría podido desempeñarme de todos modos. Hace aproximadamente un mes y 3 semanas dejé la pornografía, y luego la semana pasada cometí dos recaídas. He estado saliendo con esta chica durante aproximadamente 3 semanas y hemos tenido 4 citas geniales. Ella vendrá a mi departamento esta noche por primera vez y no puedo controlar la ansiedad y el miedo que tengo de decepcionarla a ella y a mí sexualmente. Me gusta mucho esta chica y no sé cómo expresarle mis miedos o mis problemas sin que me pierda el respeto. ¿Alguien puede ayudarme sobre lo que potencialmente puedo hacer o lo que quizás haya funcionado para algunos en el pasado?
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Don't worry brother, the first time it's obvious that it's scary, but fear doesn't meet new people, it doesn't give first kisses, fear ironically tells us where to go, because if it scares you that means you care, fear is the Father you should disobey. Regarding your problem, don't tell it, that would make her lose attraction to you, you must appear confident and determined so that she can feel safe and comfortable in your presence. It is more what you transmit than what you say. Don't be afraid to go for sex, if she agreed to be in your apartment it's because she obviously also wants the same thing.
 
BLACK RACER said:
Don't worry brother, the first time it's obvious that it's scary, but fear doesn't meet new people, it doesn't give first kisses, fear ironically tells us where to go, because if it scares you that means you care, fear is the Father you should disobey. Regarding your problem, don't tell it, that would make her lose attraction to you, you must appear confident and determined so that she can feel safe and comfortable in your presence. It is more what you transmit than what you say. Don't be afraid to go for sex, if she agreed to be in your apartment it's because she obviously also wants the same thing.
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Thank you for the motivation! You're right.
 
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