Having a hard time trying not to fap because of loneliness

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by BearTed, Feb 29, 2020.

  1. BearTed

    BearTed Fapstronaut

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    I've been addicted to fapping since I was 10 and it has really consumed my life to the point where whenever I talk to a girl, I just imagine wanting to screw her or just see her getting screwed. Because of it, my anxiety and not being able to talk to girls properly has lead to me not being able to be in a relationship. It has also affected my self-esteem and doubt in whether girls I talked to find me creepy.

    I have been trying to find ways to improve my life by trying to stop watching porn and masturbating but unfortunately, it always leads me back right into it because of the feeling of emptiness and jealousy whenever i see other people being happily in love.
     
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  2. helpinghand4all

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    I've been exactly there, not anymore. The biggest thing you're doing is not giving up and trying to do the hard that's the force of life, that's what drives life forward. Believe me life can be magical and there is no need to involve someone that doesn't or wouldn't really care for you.
     
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  3. Jeremi

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    I feel you man! I have been experienced this unending void of hopelessness and loneliness for so long. But good thing is that I am starting to turn it into motivation to take action. If you want to have someone in your life bad enough, you will start to plan to make it come true. And believe it or not, I am making very slow steps on this thorny path, but I know I will get it one day. You need to have faith man. Feed on that negativity and turn it into power, confidence, motivation to change your life, to achieve your dreams!
     
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  4. FY_33

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    Well i can relate this after i broke up. You can get up man! I am too. jealous by married couple:( but, the answer is not jerking off. But... searching for partner. Or do what you love. When i am focused on something, i literally ignore sexual thinking
     
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  5. BearTed

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    Thanks for the kind words man, great advice you have given me. Just that sometimes a man can only be so patient. But slow and steady wins the race
     
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  6. BearTed

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    Ikr its not like i want anyone to break up, its just that I wanna know what it feels like being in a relationship. I think my problem is i stay at home too often and that leads me to fap lol...
     
  7. BearTed

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    Thanks, i talked about this addiction to a couple friends of mine but the problem is they are also addicted lol so that didnt help at all. Im trying not to give up but the void seems so tempting sometimes.
     
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  8. tout ça pour ça

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    Loneliness is very difficult; but so commonplace. Sometimes, I am happy to just to talk to someone in the street about something dumb like their dogs. When we do things together in real life, Im not lonely though.
     
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  9. helpinghand4all

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    I think 99% of people are addicts of some kind. Girls are addicted to boys, majority are addicted to alcohol, drugs, some are addicted to gambling, others to porn and the funny thing is there might be a withdrawal related to all. You're brave if you're trying to give up. You will experience things after recovery like never before, I've just had 5 days after flatline and I could feel everything like I was a child again, it's magical. If you fell in love after recovery, I guarantee it will be magical.
     
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  10. BearTed

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    I always get nervous whenever im just talking to someone new, let alone a stranger :(. Hopefully if i somehow achieve the NoFap challenge, my confidence may somehow grow
     
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  11. PrinceOtaku

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    Just walk up to chick be like "lemmee get some of dat booty juice shawty" This will work 80% percent of the time I promise. Yea it might sound cheesy but you gots to let your "nutz hang" metaphorically speaking. Everyday just try to get better, gym, read, socialize, work, etc. Fuck pmo it's making you worse by comparing yourself to other people. Trust me being alone is "lonely" just keep improving is all I gotta say. Men age like wine remember that
     
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  12. BearTed

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    lmao i'll probably never say that coz i dont wanna get slapped, however ill follow your advice in trying to keep improving. Just that being lonely is such a pain in the ass ;_;
     
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  13. tout ça pour ça

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    I have found that my focus moves from me seeing that person as only sexual. Sort of get to see them as a 'whole' person. Confidence builds because you are not afraid of sexual rejection. Just becomes a bit lighter really, from which grows friendship.
     
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