Having FOMO

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by selfimprovemarcel, Oct 24, 2021.

  1. selfimprovemarcel

    selfimprovemarcel Fapstronaut

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    Do you guys experience the destructing feeling that you’re going to give up something you’ll never get back when giving up PMO?
    I just looked at a picture from a girl and felt deep misery realising I will never masturbate and fantasize to such beautifull people ever again. (I will never engage with those girls either because they are not my age group anymore)
    How do you guys deal with this?
     
  2. WildEntheology

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  3. selfimprovemarcel

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    Yes
     
  4. WildEntheology

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    Then your biggest issue is the fact that you have limiting beliefs about the kinds of experiences you can have with women of all kinds. I don't know what the lockdown situation is like wherever you are, but if you have open nightclubs I highly encourage you to go out. Become a good conversationalist, offer value, and you can have pretty much any type of woman you want. When you master that skill you will realize what you've really been missing out on.
     
  5. IGY

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    What is FOMO?
     
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    Fear Of Missing Out
     
  7. selfimprovemarcel

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    yeah thats very true. My biggest issue tho, is the fact that the woman i like the most (maybe this is a porn induced fetish of mine), are underage, like 15+. Even though im still 19, I wont be engaging with those young girls.
    So my question is how do older people, like 50+, deal with the fact that the woman they like the most (men mostly keep liking girls in her 20s the most) wont be available to them even in their fantasizing mind.
     
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  8. IGY

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    Oh thanks lol, I missed out on that meaning! :p
     
  9. WildEntheology

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    Okay that makes sense then. Main thing you have to do is remain abstinent from PMO. Work on yourself, meditate, workout, etc. This will help you undo the porn-induced fetishes you've developed.

    After that, you need to start reconditioning your brain to real life women. If you haven't had a lot of sexual experiences then your issue isn't the age group necessarily, your issue is that you are still associating your unresolved desire with all the girls you went to high school with who you never had experiences with. You still think about Jessica in Grade 9 English who you always wanted to ask out. Once you've had experiences with 19 year old Stacey and 21 year old Veronica, you won't be so caught up in all the experiences you've missed out on.

    Also, be sure to accept the part of yourself that has become stuck developmentally in the past. That doesn't mean you think about those desires or you act on those desires. Just give that part of yourself love. When the thoughts come up, just accept them, and try to refocus on what you are supposed to be doing in that moment. Don't blow the thoughts up by engaging with them or by desperately trying to get rid of them. Both of those reactions perpetuate the thoughts.

    I wish you the best on your recovery man!
     
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  10. I_Am_Strong_54

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    When I gave up PMO at the start of my current streak I initially did miss one of the cams girls I had spent time with. I know she does not care about me as she claimed, she only cares about the money I spent on her. It's been over 50 days since I have seen her and I have no doubt she does not miss me at all. Do I think about her sometimes? Yes I do, but I know I'm better off without her and I like having the money I spent on her in my bank account.


    I'm 100% okay with this because one thing that happens when I am on a good NoFap streak is i become more engaging and more social. So my odds of finding something real go up, and I'd much rather have a real girlfriend/relationship then some fake one and me sitting at my computer and whacking off.
     
  11. selfimprovemarcel

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    Thanks for your advice, this is some perfect logical reasoning and giving me some hope for better days coming!
     
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