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Having Problems with relapsing? Nofap was my trigger!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by RealLifeGamer, Jul 15, 2016.

  1. RealLifeGamer

    RealLifeGamer Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys, it´s my first post in a while and probably also will be for a while.
    How am I doing? I am doing good. Near the end of week 2 currently. The last time I was logged in was exactly my last relapse.

    The reason i am not online on nofap often anymore is because the more I thought and worried about NOT fapping the harder the urges were and the faster the relapse came.

    Now I just live life, do stuff I want and occasionally log in to look around or say a few words.

    For me Nofap.com is both a liberator and prison. It showed me what the problem was but at the same time it claimed I was an addict and a prisoner of porn.
    I logged in daily, wrote stuff and nofap was pretty much the thing I was most occupied with (I mean this forum/website)

    And somehow, no matter how strong the will power I often relapsed and didn´t understand why.

    Then I had an idea. --> I mainly opened the internet to surf on nofap. the nofap surfing lead to internet surfing , and the rest of the story I am sure you can imagine.

    Now I just stopped being an active part of the nofap community. I still preach it, I still think it´s awesome. But I don´t belong to it anymore.
    I see myself as non-addict and healthy person.

    I am sure many of you misunderstand what I say or don´t get it at all, that´s why let me give you an example.

    Imagine you fall down the stairs and break your foot. What happens next? Of course the ambulance comes and gets you to a hospital. You will thank god that hospitals exist and be very happy that you are treated.
    after a few weeks or months your foot is fully healed. Now, won´t you be happy to leave the hospital and get home again, see your friends and live your life again?

    Would you want to live the rest of your life in the hospital? No, of course not.

    It´s the same for me. Nofap.com showed me the way and helped me see the problem and how to solve it. (I also donated by the way) but that doesn´t mean one should study PMO all day long or obsess over it. Yes you should know your triggers weak points etc... but don´t waste time of your life on debates you will never really find the right answers too. Think about your parents/siblings and friends you have or could have and lovers you have or could have. 10...20..50 years from now you will wish you didn´t surf nofap.com all day but did the things in life you really wanted to do.

    This post is for you lurkers who have not yet opened their eyes. Spending hours upon hours on Nofap.com each day is too long. It will not help prevent relapse, chances are it will promote it!

    That´s why I check in occasionally and do stuff here and then I log out again. I am never longer online than one hour. If my life is boring I will find stuff and start stuff to make it interesting! using boredom as pretext to waste time will only harm yourself.

    Get active, get social. Leave the hospital and only come back when you really need first aid or you want to be a doctor who wants to help others.

    Start now, life is waiting, but not forever. Go take it, grab it, if you really want it.
    Or stay here all day, while nothing ever changes.

    Not fapping is the medicine to your illness. But It will not pay off debts, make friends for you, get work or get you good grades.
    Notfapping while make you healthy again. It gives you the required TOOLS to make life awesome. But you has still to decide - and still to really USE the tools.

    I believe in you, start out now ;)
     
    Last edited: Jul 15, 2016

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