Having trouble socialising

I've always been the kind of person who wants to be really outgoing and sociable but can never manage it. I just don't understand what the problem is. When I meet someone new, it's not rare for me to have a nice conversation and click with that person, but then they're never the ones to hit me up. I find that i'm always the one who has to make the first move, and not just in dating but in friendships as well, and more often than not, the person bails on meeting up.

I've been told I'm charismatic and good looking, often times even by other (straight) guys. Also that I have a deep voice. I can be quite funny, especially if I feel comfortable with the other person. So I just really don't understand it. As well, recently I've had trouble keeping myself busy enough. I'm doing my master's though, so it's not like I'm a complete loser, I have prospects. I'm looking for part-time a job, but lately I've had a little more time in my hands than I needed.

I'm constantly enthusiastic about doing different things, like going to the gym, a party, volunteer stuff and what not, but it's been extremely rare to get in environments where I meet like-minded people around my age. And even when I do, I feel like I'm not usually people's first choice when they wanna speak to someone. Sometimes I find myself having to force conversation, but when it's one-sided I get self-conscious and shy so I can't be my proper self, but I don't understand what makes people so uninterested in me so soon. Another thing is English is not my first language, but I am very fluent, however if the person somehow makes me feel uneasy, I can stutter a little bit, so I've been thinking maybe that's one reason, but it really doesn't happen all that often and I've been told my English is good by local people as well.. so I don't know.

I've been very introspective, obviously it's something I do but I just can't figure it out and I'm at a breaking point. Is it the way I look? The way I talk? Am I boring? I'm a gay guy, so sometimes I feel like I give off a campy vibe that maybe puts people off? But I'm not the flamboyant type at all, and people are often taken by surprise when I mention that I'm gay (unless we got super close then it becomes obvious, which has been rare) I've been feeling a little worthless recently and it's a shame that I've never given up despite all my failures but then they keep happening again over and over... it's like the universe wants me to fail.

My only hope at this point is rebooting. I can only think doing it will restore my mojo or something, give me some sort of invisible energy that I lost somewhere along the way. I know it sounds silly, but it's really a shame when there's a problem but you just can't pin down the underlying reasons for it. Is anyone going through the same thing?

 

Thanks for the replies guys! Come to think of it, I definitely think I might be overdoing things. I guess because i've had this problem for a while, I get quite excited in social settings and see everyone as a potential friend which might take away from the regular course of things. I don't think it's the only reason, but it's something I'll definitely pay attention to from now on.

With the small amount of friends that I had, we always had a common interest of some kind, like going to the gym together or movies etc. But recently it just hasn't come to the point of planning new activities with any new person. And outside of some basic things, I'm really not good at social activities (I don't do sports, or really play games all that much) I do always think about picking up new hobbies, maybe Volleyball or something, so i'll definitely look into that. Thanks!