Having wet dreams for 3 yrs, a failure

Wet dreams are usually caused by extra pressure in prostate. The fluid accumulates and, unlike sperm, can not be re-absorbed in to body, so it needs to discharge. Some people just produce more prostate fluid than others. In which case you can not control that.

Another reason of wet dreams are accumulated nerve tension. Usually in genital region. But even overall body tension (such as anxiety or anger) can cause wet dreams, because it is good way how to discharge that tension. That you can control however. There are stretching exercises and breathing exercises for it. An example of one such exercise would be splits. Another would be reverse kegels. And another one would be sixth tibetan rite (a yoga exercise). Look into all of this - breathing exercises to release tension as well as whole body stretching exercises, with emphasis on pelvic floor stretching.

Another reason of wet dreams might be your brain. Sexual thoughts and fantasies. In this case do not fantasize. Especially not at evening before bedtime. Also mindfulness meditation helps a lot to dissipate these thoughts. Do practice mindfulness meditation at least for 20 minutes as a last thing you do before sleep. Practice all of this for a month or two and you will notice major improvements, if not complete lack of wet dreams.

 

Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

I'm sorry for your trouble. Honestly, I'm older and wet dreams are a thing of the past for me. To be clear, I still get sexual dreams, but I don't ejaculate during them. Still, that can be a problem, perhaps not so much as for you. All I can say is that for me, I pray about the matter when I first wake up, and try to put the dream behind me. After a day, the memory is faded.