You are so clear and exact! Thak you. I'm dealing with a broken heart, with the reason being closely related to the addiction, although I believe not-rightfully so. I'm dealing with the problem that the person who reminds me most of all my pain - is my beloved wife. So on occations, when I'm with her starting some healthy coupling, I'm reminded of "the elves" we loved so much, and my arousal turns to tears. And I'm dealing with other sources of stress that everybody has in their lives. So, Even if I did want to quit MO as well, dealing with the physical crave would be too much for me. I tried for a while, just for fun, to avoid MO for one month. It broke a streak of 37 days porn-free. It's bad for me. So if I'll quit MO (I don't see right now a reason to do so) I'll deal with it later. The challenge right now is to avoid ANY porn: no videos, no photos, no stories, no comics (which may be in cases worse than real porn, but that is off-topic). My wife thinks that it's OK even if I WRITE porn stories, as long as things come from me. Even if the ideas are such that don't match my original tendecies, but were acquired by porn. I fear that it's not so right for me. By the way, it may be that some part of the addiction, is the habbit of being in front of a screen. So, if I really like this women, I found I easily get aroused by watching regular pics of her, having ROMANTIC fantasies of pre-sexualy approaching her. Maybe the screen is the main problem here???