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Healthy vs Unhealthy Suffering

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Ronaldeutsch, May 15, 2023.

  1. May 15, 2023 #1
    Ronaldeutsch

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    I am kind of confused between which suffering is good for me and which one isnt. I have learned the idea of pain of discipline vs the pain of regret but I cant differentiate between them. whenever I start a streak, It starts to feel good. I enjoy pain, the pain of sexual discomfort, the pain of sacrificing sleep but after a couple of days, it feels like there is no NEED for this suffering, and this suffering is just the same as the suffering which is going to come later due to regret. But it isnt. The pain of regret always wins, its always far more worse than the pain of abstaining. But, why do I fall? Everytime? I feel like my streaks are not porn quitting streaks, they are just like I'm pulling a spring, I know that a little slip up and all of the dragging will go in vain. It isnt quitting, its abstaining for only some time and its all a matter of time before everything goes back to normal/how it was before again. (the worst)
     
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  2. May 17, 2023 #2
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    It doesn’t sound like you’re confused about which suffering is healthy vs which one is unhealthy, but rather that you’re frustrated with your inclination to choose unhealthy suffering despite knowing it’s unhealthy.

    In my journey what ive found is that this is the reality of a fallen/wounded human nature which can only be overcome by the aid of supernatural grace, given by Jesus through sacramental life. Without such aids life just continues as you described as a series of abstinences but no lasting healing.
     
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  3. May 17, 2023 #3
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    I completely agree, friend. Sadly, it's nearly impossible explaining this concept to people who do not believe, nor know God.
     
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  4. May 18, 2023 #4
    Ronaldeutsch

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    I Do Believe in God. Im a muslim, thats why its so much more pressure to quit porn. It doesnt align with what I believe and what my religion teaches me, but it feels like I've made promise to God so many times and I've failed so many times now making a promise seems meaningless. What to do?
     
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  5. May 18, 2023 #5
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    Well, I don’t believe you will like my advice, but turn it Jesus in heartfelt prayer. Ask Him to help you carry this burden and, if it be God’s will, ask to be healed of it. He has never refused me when I’ve come to him in complete surrender.
     
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