Heart broken SO

Discussion in 'Significant Other Journals' started by Louielou, Feb 4, 2020.

  1. Louielou

    Louielou Fapstronaut

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    Heart broken doesn’t begin to Describe how I feel.
    I cannot get the truth, it’s been lies and deceit for years to what extent I’ll never know.
    He will not admit anything, he tells me I’m blowing it out of proportion and it’s not that bad. I have found evidence and shown him and he says nothing or “ I don’t know”
    I’ve gone to counseling but he won’t come. I got him to put covenant eyes on his phone and he has found a way around it. Yesterday when I confronted him again and he lied yet again then packed his bags and left, he chose porn over me and his family. I need support and to know people care.
     
  2. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    I’m sorry you are going through this. You are definitely not alone. Unfortunately, this addiction is so insidious, so easy to hide, and brings so much shame, that many never face it. Until your husband faces the fact that he is an addict, there isn’t much you can do except protect and care for yourself and family. Start focusing on you, your kids if you have any. You are not blowing it out of proportion.
     
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  3. I want the truth

    I want the truth Fapstronaut

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    I'm so sorry you're going through this. You're not alone, and as @Psalm27:1my light said you're not blowing it out of proportion. The lying is the worst part but the fact he is lying shows that it is a big deal. Otherwise why not be honest? I often find myself minimizing my SO's destructive behaviour and thinking maybe it's my perspective that is the problem. But that's because PAs lie and manipulate and gaslight to the point we SO's sometimes start to believe we're the problem. And why we may have out faults, at least we are able to admit them. That's the first step - getting him to admit he has an addiction. That has to come from him though. And even then there may be lies and hiding, at least that's what I'm experiencing. Sorry if this post doesn't help I just wanted you to know you're not alone x
     

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