Heavy sissy addiction

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Soccerboy20, Jun 3, 2019.

  1. I understand ... from what Soccerboy described I didn't read that he was about to date a murderer ... but then you never know ...
     
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  2. Vitoriosa

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    [QUOTE = "Freedom_from_PMO, post: 2083632, member: 318431"] Cara, quando eu mencionei a sociedade? Eu passei por fetiche por maricas Eu sei como é sentir que seus desejos sexuais são completamente contra quem você realmente é, ok? Sissy pornô é projetado para mudar os gostos sexuais, é projetado para desenvolver novos fetiches nos telespectadores. E abastecer esses fetiches mag cria um ciclo vicioso. A pornografia de maricas está entre as mais perigosas gerações de pornografia e deve ser levada muito a sério e qualquer um que tenha um problema com esse gênero específico deve se abster de todos os fetiches conectados a ela por um período de tempo.

    Eu tenho alguns fetiches que eu sei que não são pornografados e alguns que eu não tenho certeza, não há nada errado em ter um fetiche, não é algo que escolhemos ter. No entanto, às vezes, é o fetiche que nos controla, e não o contrário. E vou enfatizar isso de novo - o pornô de maricas é feito para fazer o espectador perder o controle de seus fetiches. OP mencionou gostar de mulheres, mas querendo conhecer um cara para ser "treinado". Eu estava lá, eu sou hetero, mas a pornografia me fez procurar atenção sexual dos homens (por sorte eu não fiz nada da IRL). E eu não era bissexual, não era normal para mim e depois de algum tempo de abstinência eu tenho zero tais idéias, como antes de encontrar pornografia de maricas. Não é errado ter fetiche, mas quando o fetiche é destrutivo, deve ser abandonado. [/ QUOTE]
    agree with everything you said. my husband has the same fetish problems of dressing in women's clothing and wearing big vibrators. before he started the nofap he was thinking of meeting men in real life, but now it no longer passes in his thoughts.
    still has the thoughts of dressing, but as he said he can control himself.
    today he knows it was all caused by pornography, he does not see anything else related to it. already 10 months ago. that he is away from porn, plus he knows any scene can mess up his head. so my friends, stay away from pornography, that gradually you will return to normal. can be sure. without PMO their lives will have another meaning. he is another man.
     
  3. kwplen

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    Hi there, please explain me better this paragraph - be free, explain totally.
     
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  4. kwplen

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    @bken
    Explain more details please,
    This:
    " It's the fantasy that is so compelling, and if you keep pursuing it, you'll be in for some very rough withdrawals the moment you decide to quit porn because the rewiring process is very real."
     
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  5. Soccerboy20

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    Thanks guys for the reply's. I quit all of it and blocked the guy. The clothes i will throw away. After all its just disguisting how crazy your mind can make you... If you would see me in real you never expected something like this.

    Just to make clear i'm not gay or bisexual. I did have sex with several women but the fantasy always cameback. Eacht time in a heavier form. Because of this forum i finally see thats its just an addiction, what i want to quit. I'm glad to see that so many of you have taking this serious... Thanks guys
     
  6. Soccerboy20

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    Exactly this... Even know if i read all of this its just a better feeling. And the sexual attention part is true. But on this moment when i think clearly im also
    relieved i didn't do anything. Its time to change now.
     
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  7. Vitoriosa

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    [QUOTE = "Soccerboy20, post: 2085437, membro: 331691"] Obrigado pessoal pela resposta. Eu parei tudo e bloqueei o cara. As roupas que eu vou jogar fora. Afinal, é só disfarçar o quão louco sua mente pode fazer você ... Se você me visse de verdade, nunca esperaria algo assim.

    Só para deixar claro que não sou gay ou bissexual. Eu fiz sexo com várias mulheres, mas a fantasia sempre se volta. Cada vez em uma forma mais pesada. Por causa deste fórum eu finalmente vejo isso é apenas um vício, o que eu quero sair. Fico feliz em ver tantos de vocês levando isso a sério ... Obrigado pessoal [/ QUOTE]

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    oi, sou casada a 29 anos, não percebi que meu marido estava viciado ao ponto de esperar eu dormi e vestir se com roupas femininas, e fazer masturbação anal, 5 ou 6 ou até mais não sei ao certo, mais foi o bastante para ele pensar que queria ser um travesti, e até mesmo colocar seios, eu descobri, sabia que estava tudo errado, pesquisei e estou aqui hoje quase um ano depois, eu sei pelo histórico do celular dele o que ele estava vendo e pesquisando, procurou até por homens, mais ele fala que não era o homem que ele queria era apenas o pênis. realmente a pornografia distorce tudo em sua mente.
    hoje ele está bem, joguei tudo no lixo. bloquiei o celular dele , hoje ele não tem mais celular porque eu tirei dele, para o bem dele e sinceramente ele fala que não quer mais celular porque sabe que se ver algo pornografico ele vai querer ver e vai baguncar tudo de novo, hoje ele não sente mais vontade de ser uma mocinha como voces dizem, hoje ele sabe que é heretero, hoje temos uma vida sexual normal, ele estava com disfunção erétil, hoje está normal. a pornografia estava mudando seu gosto sexual, hoje ele me agradece, porque ele nem imagina do que seria capaz de fazer com a vida dele. fiquem fortes e longe de pornografia.






    Hi, I'm married to 29 years old, did not realize that my husband was addicted to the point of waiting I slept and dressed in women's clothes, and do anal masturbation, 5 or 6 or even more I do not know for sure, more was enough for him think that I wanted to be a transvestite, and even put breasts, I discovered, I knew that everything was wrong, I researched and I'm here today almost a year later, I know from his cell phone history what he was seeing and researching, men, plus he says that it was not the man he wanted was just the penis. pornography really distorts everything in your mind.
    today he is well, I threw everything in the trash. I blocked his cell phone, he does not have a cell phone anymore because I took him, for his sake and sincerely he says that he does not want any more cell phone because he knows that if he sees something pornographic he'll want to see it and he'll mess up again, feel more like being a girl like you say, today he knows he is heretero, today we have a normal sex life, he was with erectile dysfunction, today is normal. the pornography was changing his sexual taste, today he thanks me, because he can not imagine what he could do with his life. stay strong and away from pornography.
     
  8. bken

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    Simply put after years of watching porn an addict will have established tolerance in their dopamine (and other neurotransmitters') receptors. To counteract this, new genres of porn and yes, even sexual tastes will be sought out to keep the excitement pathways lit up. It is the tolerance that will force an addict into new fantasies, new genres of porn, all of which may not necessarily match their sexual orientation. This is how sissy fetishes, shemale fetishes and gay fetishes develop. Desensitization means just that, tolerance in the nervous system. Months or years of consistently watching porn and especially edging to porn can and will cause tolerance in the addict in most cases. Porn is not yet classified as a drug but it should be for this very simple reason. People's mental health is suffering because of porn and this should never be allowed to happen. Identity crises and eventually clinical depression are the ultimate outcome of very severe porn addictions. This has everything to do with imbalances in the nervous system. A porn habit is a chronic stressor, meaning, it will provide short term stress relief but at the same time it will become a long term necessity in order to fend off tolerance and therefore extreme levels of stress. This is why withdrawal from pornography is barely tolerable for some. It's also why people have difficulties giving up porn. It's the necessity that defines the addiction. Hence why governments should probably illegalize the entire industry. Mental health can never be allowed to suffer since society more or less depends upon it.
    Hoping this is a good enough explanation. In any case porn addicts never win. A lot is lost because of this habit.
     
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  9. Thanks for the great summing up. When I have to define myself I would say I am a gay human being, a man who loves man, I love being a man.
    There were times I was dressed up, lipstick and all on cam pleasing straight guys ... now, one could think, yeah ok, he is gay anyway, so no big deal ;) But it‘s all about getting the rush in the head ... I got hooked to straight porn, soft first then more and more, heavy stuff, got a rush of men using women (I love women and support all their right movements and marches towards equality), I searched for faggot stuff, was on cam ... consequently met escorts whom I wanted to treat me as their faggot, puppy training, dog stuff, invested a fortune in masks and tails and toys and devices only to throw or give it away weeks later ... got severely hooked on cashsites, (findom/making romania and others great again), abuse .. all for the relieve of my troubled self ... etc ...
    And what I like about NoFap as well is that there is no better on either side of the shore. Thank you all for accepting and helping me/us to speak about it to other people and being heard, to get it out of the system ...

     
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  10. fedmom

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    There's a thread in my profile for anyone needing help with this addiction.
     
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  11. Albert Cole

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    This man is struggling with a heavy addiction to abnormal sexual practices that involve him being degraded as man, and treated as a woman. He's said that he has a man who is trying to manipulate that fetish to use him as some kind of perverted sex slave. All of this is clearly abnormal, clearly wrong and clearly harming him as he is feeling intense guilt and it directly interferes with his ability to both feel like and perform as a man. I don't want to hear any of you idiots tell me that he might "just be bisexual" or just have some kind of "non harmful fetish". There's no such thing, idiots. A fetish, by its very nature is an inversion of normal sexual practices, and are inherently harmful to those who engage in them. All those who are saying that there's nothing inherently wrong with this are CAUSING HARM, directly to him and to people like him. To OP, you need to destroy all of this stuff like the wigs and the other stuff and stop watching porn entirely. Porn has re-wired your brain to find this inherently disgusting stuff sexually arousing, so you need to stop watching it to fix your brain back to a normal position. Cut off all contact with this man you're talking about and remind yourself constantly when these thoughts and urges come into your head that they're not normal, that they are there because of Porn, and that they're not a part of you. In future, you other idiots in this comment chain need to keep your dumb mouths shut when stupid ideas come into your head that can compromise other people's recovery from serious addictions. I don't want to have to say this again.
     
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    Google gender bending plastics, if you were breastfed as a child their are chemical inside the teat of the milk bottle that transfer to babies that have chemicals that turn into oestrogen in the body and affect men and women, but mainly men. But these chemicals are in everything, the teat milk bottle is the worst because it becomes warm and your brain is still developing. These chemicals are in EVERYTHING that we consume, stop using plastics and buy fresh produce. Their in, milk bottles, yohurt pots, microwave meals, plastics drinking bottles, freezer bags, clingfilm, or cellophane etc...

    https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn7440-gender-bending-chemicals-found-to-feminise-boys/
     
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    Awesome post. Occurred to me to add as well, that once turned on, the brain is quite capable of taking negative stimuli and turning it into pleasure, with the greater the sensation generated the greater the potential it can be inverted and used to eventually lead to 'relief'. To the extent that things can included negative feelings and amplifying them, which will lead to a vicious negative back lash after the initial dopamine surge recedes. Just like a drug come down. Like wise fear, shame, pain, as centralised or interconnected parts.

    Start also combining things causing fear, at first in subtle forms that, for example like the 'falling in love effect' also known to be confused with 'the suspension bridge effect' can also lend aid to escalating things, perhaps down dark paths even quicker, perhaps as more lines are crossed it becomes easier to cross them. In part because of that.

    These could easily be co-morbid and supportive of other issues that might serve to reinforce it too. As this stuff will readily reinforce and create path ways that will primed to subtly undermine a persons actions and choices. Meaning that as the addiction takes deeper hold, it starts steering your away from healthier outcomes, and deeper into territories, psychological if not financial etc, where a person will be at risk of furthering the addiction and its issues.

    Those might also include negative effects of compartmentalised thinking, with separated moral boundaries and behaviours in a kinked life, which implies issues with moral boundaries that we have gotten too used to breaching which can also lead to other issues, break down due to the dissonant pressures it can create if carried for too long.

    Which also might explain how some end up on the darker and darkest paths of some of these things. Where hopefully they stop and break free.
     
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    Great advice.
     
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