Hello everyone! - Delayed Ejaculation - Stroking

Hi guys! I have never been part of any kind of forum. Like with porn, I was mostly a voyeur. I was also scared to participate. As I have not been able to find some answers while looking around and I really felt like sharing here I go. Thanks in advance for your patience.

I'm a 23-year-old man who is both into men and women. I became aware of sexual energies and sensitivity quite early on: when I was about 6 I found out that I could orgasm by raising my legs and body on my two arms and holding this for a while (erect penis but no touching or stroking).
I lost my virginity at age 14 and I have PMOd since the age of 11-12. I think I have developed DE (Delayed ejaculation) and Death Grip as I can go on penetrating long after my partner has orgasmed and still not come. The only orgasm I have ever had during sex was while bottoming with a guy about 4 years ago. This one time was a lengthy, enjoyable and meaningful lovemaking session. I am afraid I have since become "traumatized" or afraid of sex because I know I won't be able to come inside a girl/guy. I feel like I'm handicapped.

As I want my sex and love life to get back to that level and beyond, I have decided to begin the nofap challenge (hardmode) for 90 days. I'm at day 15 and I can say I have felt some changes, though they go on and off. Clarity of mind, renewed physical strength and greater sensitivity in the penis are some of them.

Here are some questions for you fellow fapstronauts:

1. As I am experiencing renewed sensitivity in my penis, I am being drawn to test it by feeling it with my hands. This does not at all mean rough play (not even pushing the foreskin up and down once) but I have been stroking it very slowly. For reasons that I can't explain, I picked up a fig today, tore it open and made it go gently around the shaft, simply feeling the cold and the texture. It made me learn more about my penis (and myself!). Does this count as relapsing? Should i reset?

2. I have been seeing a girl lately and we kissed. I got aroused and felt stimulated. Do you guys think I should reset and ban all romantic/sexual contact for the sake of reboting?


Thanks for your time.

 

Thanks for the advice! Let's go

 

Sure will! Hang in there buddy

 

Dear all,

I am happy to share with you that after only 23 days of no PMO I have been able to orgasm while penetrating my partner for the first time in my life.
My delayed ejaculation has been cured.

You see, I was not expecting anything to happen! I was just penetrating, waiting for her to come and suddenly everything was very clear. I couldn't help it. My breathing fastened, my pelvis movements went on autopilot and a tremendous orgasm erupted from my penis to my prostate, taking over my entire body. This kind of orgasm is totally new to me - and absolutely worth the wait.

It was one of the most exciting and beautiful things that have ever happened to me.

I don't feel like masturbating anymore. The superpowers seem to be real: brain fog is out, I can finally read for hours without losing track of where I was, engaging in flirting has never been so rewarding and uplifting. There is a spiritual urge becoming more vivid as I slowly climb to the best shape of my life. I'm out there with life at last.

Thanks to the nofap community for helping me get this far. I'll try and keep you posted.

 

No sexual activity at all up to that point. How is it going for you?

 

It's wonderful to help others out with this shit. Believe me, I thought I was damaged for life. Make sure you stay away from any sort of stimulation (including having sex with that girl without coming or slightly stroking your john thomas) for the length of the challenge and you are going to get there for sure.

 

guys, after reaching great results I had a moment of weakness and relapsed to masturbation. no porn. starting the counter again today.

did I lose all of my progress?

 

dear all, thank you for your time and support. I'm writing to you to let you know that I have failed again. I've failed repeatedly. after years of pmoing I started seeing results after only 23 days, but then I just figured: ok, I'll just jerk one off and it will be easy to get back on my feet. bad news is it doesn't work like that. I'll be starting nofap again with renewed strength. but my mind is so foggy and I feel so tired that I may just relapse again. wish me luck!

 

Where can I find a sponsor ?