Hello I need advice

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Usurper, May 21, 2018.

  1. Usurper

    Usurper New Fapstronaut

    Hi im new to this community
    I started nofap on April 15 and already over a month in and I've started to notice some differences. I feel a slight increase in my day to day confidence, my brain fog has decreased and I've been more productive.
    Before nofap i was watching porn 3 times a day and never indulged in any sexual activity with anyone. Now I've met a girl my age who is still a virgin and doesn't want sex till marriage but wants to do all the other sexual stuff with me (we're not in a relationship btw) i don't want to lose the benefits of nofap but all i want to know is
    Will i have to reset my streak if i O from a handjob/bj from her and will i lose the benefits from it too.
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  2. ImASinnerWhoJesusSaved

    ImASinnerWhoJesusSaved Fapstronaut

    Having hand job/bj before marriage will not help at all, in fact it will burden both of you. Show your courage as a man by denying that for now. It will make things much better during marriage.
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  3. FX-05

    FX-05 Fapstronaut

    It's not porn but actual sex, so I don't think there might be a problem there - plus, there's a third way that's not her vagina or her mouth :v lol
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  4. DE.HK

    DE.HK Fapstronaut

    Hey buddy, I am very glad that you reached your first 30 days. Nice job, is a really tough one!
    For me, I am trying to do monk mode which is no PMO or even sex. After trying it for several times, I saw that having sex would trigger a stronger and continuous urge to watch porn. It is more like you ignite your engine and it has to run some miles. Therefore, just beware of it. Handjob or bj or even the back door doesn't matter.
    But do spend some time to think whether that is what you want! If so, go for it!
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  5. Thrawn88

    Thrawn88 Fapstronaut

    No, it is not. In my opinion you don't have to reset your streak because it is a healthy and normal sexual situation between you and your girlfriend. You should enjoy this.
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  6. My dear brother... once u start doing other stuff besides sex, u will ultimately reach to sex. When she will start enjoying it and u too will, obviously she will go a step further, or u might persuade her for that, and she might not be able to say no to u.
    And if someday u people broke up.. u will obviously need to do something for that pleasure. So u will again start with porn and masturbatiion.so my suggestion is either completely abstain urself from that girl, or wait till marriage before doing anything
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  7. I completely agree with the friend above, bar the part about leaving her. There are numerous ways to show love without hand jobs and bjs - those two should actually be considered masturbation, based on how they're done. And you'll feel masturbated afterwards.
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  8. Usurper

    Usurper New Fapstronaut

    Thanks man I'll think about it

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