Hello, i'm new to the forum, on day 87 today, just to introduce myself.

I already have been trying to stop PMO before i even knew about nofap and what it means exactly.
So i am a member of Nofap in reddit, i found it when i was on day 40 and something, and made a reddit account and joined the community.

I am using the same name there as my name here. I joined this forum and site 3 days ago i think. I just decided to create account and here, since this is a forum and i think it would contain better discussions and the people here would be more devoted, serious and motivated than those on reddit, (of course there are people here which are on reddit/nofap too) because i recently started to notice how some of the guys there started posting threads about how they relapsed, or some guys who just started it fill the page with their new threads, and the most threads there are from people with smiley face on their badges, or people who havent yet reached their 1st month of abstinence. Anyway, i dont want to say that they shouldnt post, but the page is just flooded with these, instead of threads of reports, stories and results of longer abstinences.

So, i am here now, hello from me. I have 3 more days to day 90, i hope i reach it successfully, and think about writing a report about it, both here and on reddit.
A little info for me, I'm 21 years old, a student, I'm from Bulgaria. Started PMOing when i was 15, i think. I did a lot of damage to myself with this terrible vice, and i knew what i was doing was very wrong, and since 2012 i was trying to stop it eagerly and fervently, but eventually relapsed many times. In the last 2 years, i have fapped maybe 5 - 6 times, i made streaks of abstinence of 87 days and before, even i think i had a streak that was 100+ days, i didnt count them back then. Felt very disappointed after a relapse, because it felt like i have wasted in vain all of my days that i abstained.

So now i am feeling good, and calm, currently i dont have urges or temptations, but i know they will come at some moment, so i have to stay careful and vigilant. Nofap is great, i see many benefits in it, and i dont want to stop it, and hopefully i will have the power and will to never relapse again, and to "Never_Return_There". ;D
So i wish good luck and success on everyone here, and stay strong and resist as hard as you possibly can! Chase long streaks !!! ;D

 

Thanks. ;D I hope you can accomplish the same results as me, or even better.
I dont have any concrete or particular strategy, but here is what i do, when temptations come:
I remind myself of what were the bad effects that followed after a relapse,(for me they were many, and unpleasent) and also i try to apply the strenght of will that i have (not that its very big), and also make my mind busy with something so the temptations dont bother me so much, for example i try to sing/rap some lyrics of songs, or go to eat, or drink water, or do exercises. I also pray to God sometimes, to help me cope with this, i am not a member of church or something like that, i am still secular, but i have faith and read the Bible. Other things include telling yourself "NO, I AM NOT DOING THIS STUFF TODAY, IN NO WAY, NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS!! And try as hard as you can to push these thoughts away and out of your mind, since the relapse process begins in the mind. And put all of your conscious power and efforts in withstanding and resisting in that day only, you will think about tomorrow, when it comes, so think about today. Conquer on the scheme of "day by day" or "day for day" or "one day at a time" i dont know what is the proper expression, but the idea is to make yourself not relapse in the current day and do EVERYTHING YOU CAN to achieve the prupose. And then when the next day comes, you do the same thing again. And when you pass 30 days, things get much easier, but still dont underestimate the situation, staying clean of this is very difficult. And when you see some provocative image, or picture, or video, try to close it, put blockers on your browser, and say" GET AWAY FROM ME, I WILL NOT SERVE THIS URGE ANYMORE !!!" Also the problem comes when you have to manage yourself, when you are alone and no one is around. Go outside, take a walk, take some music with you(music that does not contain sexual refferences or have any fast beat), drink water, or take cold showers. Thats what i can say for now, probably there are other things, that i have forgotten to mention, but if they come to my mind, i will post them here in order to help you and encourage you. You are not alone in this struggle, i am with you. And besides this, you have almost resisted for 8 days, thats 8 victories. They say that the 7th and 8th days are the hardest to resist, since then is the peak of testosterone. So try to make it to day 9 or 10. Stay strong ! ;D

 

Oh, yeah, another thing which i forgot: When the urge comes, try to picture yourself from outside of yourself, like you are another person, looking at you. I mean, imagine how you would look if you give in to the urge, you stay in your room few feet away from yourself, and seeing how you look like staying infront of a computer screen watching and rubbing your @#!$. You perceive that you look silly, right ????

 

Yeah, i will as much as i am allowed to, and if you need something write me. But even 87 days, already 88 is not a big accomplishment. Today i was browsing reddit/nofap and i saw a post of a guy who made it to 224 days and then relapsed... I felt so bad about this dude .... And he wrote that his previous streak has been 164 days or something ... So the key is to be strong every single day and dont allow to be shaken or swayed. ;D