Hello, Please help me be a No Fapper

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Doctor Misterio, Mar 7, 2017.

  1. Doctor Misterio

    Doctor Misterio Fapstronaut

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    Hello everybody.
    I'm a doctor in south america. I'm gonna tell you my story.
    It all began when I was 13 years old. I didn't know about the fap, but I had my interest in nude women because of my older brother and his nude material from his friends. He had videos, posters, even some women pics we downloaded from the telephone internet (so slow), and we printed them out. The fapping began when I asked my school partner how it was this fapping, then he explained it to me. So I tried out that night with the cable porn channel that we used to hack (It was a blurry fine tune kinda thing that we used to do to watch the porn channel). That's the beggining of my doom. After that night, the intensity became more and more demanding, so that I even jerked off 6 to seven times a day. I was going straight to my doom. But then I got to pray a lot, because It was consuming my all life, I was failling in school, was a bad son, and had blood shot eyes everyday. So I got to pray a lot and so I was able to pass my teenage years improving my life. Then in my twenties I decided to overcome it by sleep wiith as much women as I could. I gotta admit those sexy ladies really gave me a boost, so I decreased my urges in a month or even 7 months without doing it. Then I got inloved and married. My sex life was fine, the first months, until my wife wouldn't do it whenever I wanted, so I began to watch porn again, and got hooked up with this fap again. I'm 5 years married now, and don't have children, had one baby loss when my wife was going through the end of her first quarter.
    I am so sad, to think that It was my fault, for doing it during the period of getting her pregnant. So in a way I think It's the guilt that makes me feel sadder, depressed and falling into this masturbating spiral of doom.
    I want out. But I can't do it on my own. So here I am, looking for some help to prevent me from doing this to me and my wife.

    Thank you for reading this.
     
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    Doctor Misterio Fapstronaut

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    Well, I passed last night without porn or any erotic images. The local TV doesn't help so many hostesses in mini dress. I woke up 4 am, I could prevent myself from turning on the TV, I turned on my cell phone and checked some fb profile of an old school partner, I didn't see any provocative pic, I think it's because she is a mom now. Then I got to read some history posts. Went back to sleep. The next challenge is reading the newspaper, usually a model with little clothes appears. I'll keep you updated. So far I feel on track. Have a nice day.
     
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  3. Hi, and welcome to NoFap. Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear about you and your wife's loss.

    From this point forward you are a fapstronaut. Admitting you have a problem and taking action to fix that is the main step. Being a successful fapstronaut is doing whatever it takes to stop yourself from masturbating to porn. Here are some tips/strategies that may help. Documenting your progress in a journal is common (which is what you are doing) so you are on the right track. Don't beat yourself up too much when you relapse and have patience. Good luck.
     
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  4. i_wanna_get_better1

    i_wanna_get_better1 Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to the forum. I too was emotionally unavailable when my wife miscarried and during my wife's successful two pregnancies. She later admitted to me that she almost didn't allow me in the delivery room for the birth of our second child.

    As a doctor you understand what people would do to avoid feeling physical pain. Addicts want their emotional pain to go away. Addicts use things/images/events to alter, medicate, sooth, escape, or numb emotional discomfort. It can be something as simple as boredom, as serious as childhood trauma, or to medicate an mental health problem such as depression or anxiety. Instead of being addicted to outside chemicals, we are addicted to the release of powerful brain chemicals when we PMO.

    I hope you find the information, advice, and support you need to overcome this problem.
     
  5. Doctor Misterio

    Doctor Misterio Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for reading.
    So long I'm doing fine. One day at a time I guess. Thank you for the tips those are a lot of tips. And very helpful.
    THANK YOU SO MUCH.
     
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  6. Doctor Misterio

    Doctor Misterio Fapstronaut

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    You are so right. This addiction is about those powerful brain chemicals.
    I admire the time you are clean. I hope you can keep up the good work, and maybe some day I'll be all those months without PMO.
    Thanks a lot I appreciate the message.
     
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  7. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    How are you progressing today?

    What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
  8. Doctor Misterio

    Doctor Misterio Fapstronaut

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    Hi D.J.:
    I have been fighting in this thread: Keeping you up with my forefront battle
    So you are welcome to visit my thread.

    My current strategies for combat are:
    1) Keep the mind busy, if there a more people involved in your activities the better (making connections to people help)
    2) Whenever you are feeling down or depressed find some comedies a show on youtube might come handy (I'm currently watching space ghost coast to coast)
    3) Talk about your fight with some one you care (in my case I talked to my wife and from time to time I keep her updated on my progess)
    4) Fight to regain your child ingenuity (To always think the best and funny side of situations and/or people)
    5) Do not by any means open the slightiest chance to PMO monster, It will grab you and hunt you down until you are completly lost again. (In my case I had some pretty near cases of softcore porn, erotic scenes, hot women in little clothes, It was the worse thing that I could do)
    6) Don't think too much, I had that at first I didn't PMO at the first days but I was still thinking about it most of the time. (that didn't helped me either)
    7) Search for people connections and specially a stronger one like a girlfriend or a wife, but let those be love connections not just for sex. In my single days I searched for sex and that just kept me lost.

    Well I think those are some tips I can give you.

    Have a great week, and remember We can all win this war.
     
    Last edited: Mar 27, 2017
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  9. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Those are awesome and very sound tips. Check out In Case You Didn't Know for additional strategies and tips which may help you along your journey.
     
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