Help! Addicted to Escorts

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by ropapa100, Sep 19, 2018.

  1. Anubis Rises

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    the only negative things i believe there are about escort encounters is you may get a std an it drains you financially,drains you spiritually, the escort isnt going to have a orgasm because all the men shes been with during a day, with sex you should know your partner so you know how to make her orgasm, an so you exchange energies instead of just one benefiting from it, we are designed to stay connected to the one we are having sex with, its a connection, who ever you sex today should be there the next night for you then the next then the next, i find your sexual energie comes back stronger after sex,
     
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  2. Anubis Rises

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    i often think, what do regular woman think of a guy she is in a relationship with or dating ,what would she do if he told her he been with escorts in the past, would she freak out,dump him, these things well haunt me
     
  3. GA93JDeereboy

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    I wouldn't do it. Some things are best left unsaid.
     
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  4. magellant

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    Something that helped me a little is the book by Charles Duhigg titled 'The Power of Habit'. It helped me understand the underlying causes and the warning signs to watch out for in myself.
     
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  5. magellant

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    It is about those first few days (in my case about a week). If it seems insurmountable, pluck yourself out of your daily routine for a few days. Go some place else. Put the distance. Change the setting. Start an intense month long yoga class or something. Anything to take up all your time. You either need to go somewhere without access to internet or escorts. If that is not an option, then try and completely fill up your time with some hobby or activity leaving you literally no time in a day left to spare including the weekends. If you can do this maybe for a couple of days, then you will find that it gets progressively less difficult to handle and manageable from there on.

    Something that seems to have worked for me is this. I bought a new computer. My last one was old and near death anyway. However, now that I have this brand new computer, I feel very protective of it and do not wish to tarnish it with pornographic imagery or escort websites. It sounds silly, I know. But amazingly enough, it has done the trick for me. I worship this machine now and only wish to use it to do things to help better myself. I also realise that something like this may not be feasible for you right now but just thought I would share it nonetheless.
     
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  6. Anubis Rises

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    sex addiction is not a illness lol we are biologically designed to contantly have sex, we just need to get a real life parnter to have sex with
     
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    David Duchovny, Charlie Sheen, Amy Winehouse, Amber Smith, Michael Douglass, Jack Nicholson, Billie Bob Thorton, Rob Lowe, Kanye West, Brittany Spears, and Lindsey Lohan would all disagree with you. So would their therapists. And their significant others who were left being cheated on regularly. And those are just famous people who are self confessed sex addicts from off the top of my head.
     
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  8. I would try and delete all the contacts of the previous escorts and then set up website blockers for the escort sites. cold turkey is a pretty good blocker.
     
  9. Anubis Rises

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    so your going to tell your partner your not having sex no more cause its a addiction thats fine ,
     
  10. Immature

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    Sex with one partner isn't really a typical pattern or problem in sex addiction .
     
  11. Anubis Rises

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    well of course im going to defend my need to have sex, yes i may have switched a addiction for another one ,and the fact my E.D is almost non exsistent im sure well feed the fire
     
  12. Immature

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    Sounds like me, though I had ED come back. Possibly due to age and health, possibly due to dopamine burnout.
     
  13. TheDuke6

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    The escort thing is my biggest weakness when it comes to my sexual behavior. I've seen 3 different ones in the past month, and found myself looking again this morning. I have a trip out of town planned for late October, and I fear if I don't get this under control, I could really mess up on the trip. I've wasted too much time looking, scanning the websites. WAY too much money over the years. My family and friends would be devastated if it were to come out. My reputation in the community would be destroyed. Thank God for this group...I'm going to need the support.
     
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  14. Immature

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    I was sometimes seeing 3 a week before my dick stopped working. And no, I can't afford it. My counter is one day greater for hookers than for PMO.
     
  15. Anubis Rises

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    years ago i use to work full time at wendys resturant here,iwent to work everyday on my bmx ,i tried so hard trying to get a date with woman but i guess no woman wants to date a guy that works at a fast food resturant, i couldnt figure out why no one wanted to date me, money doesnt put me in any type a mind state i could make tons i could make pennies, i well still be in the same mood same mind state,i kept getting rejected, a work friend there noticed i kept getting shot down every time, he already had a girl friend an they are still together im sure they are married by now but his girl friend has a escort friend from the brothel here in my city, he gave me the number an info for the escort services, so the brothel is actually on my side of the city , so i past it everyday when i go to work an coming home, normal people are oblivious to the house, but the house sits there tempting me everyday, i work at more higher up resturant now, an ive been getting raises like crazy, and now im being shown everything to do as i well be now head of the kitchen, with all the raises at work all i can think is more more escorts an it excites the hell out of me thinking of all the time that i could spend, if i end up bringing a escort to the staff christmas parties , well everyone find out about my hidden habit, my co workers put theyre noses in everything ,my only family in my life is my grandma, my only friend i have has a big family ,he has so many kids so i keep my distance i dont visit him that much, an woman dont want to date me so im alone all the time, i plan to retired at 50 but my only thought is what the hey well i do with my time for the next 40-50 years after i retired cause i plan on living a very long time,
     
  16. Mattew

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    Same problem here, i hired escorts and went to massage parlors.
    The fact is, after almost 130 days of no pmo, i do not feel the need to watch porn, but i still want to hire an escort really bad.

    In this time i went 2 times to a massage lady i know, at day 20 and day 60, she's a professional masseuse, but she also does body massage and "sexy massage". I never let her touch my D in this two times, but i was naked during the massage.
    Today i called her again, but then i started feeling like a shit, super nervous and anxious and i deleted my appointment...

    For me this escort-masseuse thing is even worst than porn...
     
  17. GA93JDeereboy

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    Yes, escorts are a problem for people who use them when they shouldn't be doing it. I used to do it but I'm over it now. The act of giving money for something like that is a turn off in a way because sex should be a given thing of both partners. Both should want to ...
    Making it a commodity just ruins the experience and reminds you it wasn't real. It was a show.
     
  18. Anubis Rises

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    when having sex the male gives away all the physical an sexual ,spiritual energy, an the female absorbs ,accepts all the energy because she is the only who concieves the being inside her once shes pregnant, so all the males energy is being absorbed also by the little being shes pregnant with, helps it grow, an so the lil being also has your energy , but you wear condoms with a escort (i hope) so all thats happening is she steals all your eergy in which she doesnt really need
     
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  19. Immature

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    Given the effect that orgasm has on the man, (at least me), there may be something to this.;)
     
  20. SirErnest

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    Saying that women absorb or even steal the 'energy' doesn't sound very scientific to me.
    I prefer to think of it as men wasting their sperm and messing up their brain chemistry.
     
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