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I have been doing OK in terms of avoiding regular using, but of late I've become drawn to transporn. I've googled this attraction, as you do nowadays, and discovered that a lot of males are grappling with it and wondering where it puts them on the spectrum of sexual orientation. And I also notice there's a lot of media about it on the sites, so a lot of people must be wanting it.

Anyway, I'm in my late 60's now, so my overall testesterone levels have decreased, in fact I can tell that because of the infrequency of erections. But the mental habit is another thing. I really hate myself for being drawn to this, instinctively I believe it's a really grave transgression. But how can I not want, what I want? It's a battle, and I'm losing it.
 
have you ever *talked* with a trans women(I assume you like trans women,as trans men also seem to exist)?
if you do, youll be dissapointed...and thus cured! they are just people ,with their serious problems yes(disphoria of gender),but theyre not magical fantasy-enablers or anime characters.
I DONT advice doing this,but when I used a dating app to carry out my trans fetish, I realized they are just any other type of dating,with all the frustrations,annoyance and broken expectations it implies.
in the end,i decided it was BS and havent had the fetish strike back.
 
Quotidian said:
I have been doing OK in terms of avoiding regular using, but of late I've become drawn to transporn. I've googled this attraction, as you do nowadays, and discovered that a lot of males are grappling with it and wondering where it puts them on the spectrum of sexual orientation. And I also notice there's a lot of media about it on the sites, so a lot of people must be wanting it.

Anyway, I'm in my late 60's now, so my overall testesterone levels have decreased, in fact I can tell that because of the infrequency of erections. But the mental habit is another thing. I really hate myself for being drawn to this, instinctively I believe it's a really grave transgression. But how can I not want, what I want? It's a battle, and I'm losing it.
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Most probably your transh fetish is a result of escalation into trans porn.
Same thing happened to me. First I thought that I was "hidden" gay. But I realized thanks to Nofap that it was result of "baiting" from online video thumbnail algorithms, shown beside the stuff I usually watched.

After a couple of years of sobriety my lust and attraction for transgenders is totally gone.


good luck, man.
 
Well there is naturally lots of humiliation and "roughness" in this kind of porn. Many people escalate to this kind of rough porn. Also many trans women look very feminine too, so don't beat yourself up too much.
 
loneloan said:
if you do, youll be dissapointed...and thus cured! they are just people ,with their serious problems
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I bet. I actually feel very sorry for transexuals who chose a porn career. Their entire existence is defined by their sexuality and sexual performances, but what comes next? Life must be hard enough for retired porn performers, but these in particular must have some unique challenges.

I'm realising that it's attractive to me BECAUSE it's so trangressive. Kinda like when I first saw p* decades ago. So it's definitely the same hamster wheel.

mdz said:
good luck, man.
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Thanks!

Actually made some small technology changes - I had been using one browser anonymously, with no history and no log-in details (unlike Chrome which has all my data in it going back years). This made it very easy to 'reset and forget'. Too easy, in fact. So now I've signed into all my browsers on my three devices with my real name, AND activated Google safe search. Sure, I can undo all of those steps - but it means a conscious decision to pick my own locks, so to speak. (I have very bad impulse control, but I have to try and improve it.)
 
I am listening to a talk on Plato, about the three levels of being (represented by the horse, chariot and rider in his mythos). The level of 'the appetites' is characterised by urgency - urgent needs, such as eating, reproduction, avoding harm, and so on. I noticed the link between 'urgency' and 'urge'. And that ties in with the urge to seek out sexual pleasure. When that arises, it is very insistent, urgent - 'I must have that'. At that precise point, you can either satisfy the urge, or not. Whenever I fail, it's because I've given into that urge, given the urge what it wants, which strengthens it. It has a lot of brute force, that urge.
 
It is definately escalation, don't worry about gender stuff. I have been dealing with this myself for 2 years and after alot of research I feel much more confident that it is 100% escalation for me (and seems like 95% of most straight males watching it). But the only way out of it is to stop watching completely, and it may take many months or years to remove the impulses and fetish completely from your brain. You would need to quit porn all together, I don't believe it is possible to quit just a genre - definately look up how to block specific sites on chrome or download a site blocker add-on! Good luck!
 
Quotidian said:
I have been doing OK in terms of avoiding regular using, but of late I've become drawn to transporn. I've googled this attraction, as you do nowadays, and discovered that a lot of males are grappling with it and wondering where it puts them on the spectrum of sexual orientation. And I also notice there's a lot of media about it on the sites, so a lot of people must be wanting it.

Anyway, I'm in my late 60's now, so my overall testesterone levels have decreased, in fact I can tell that because of the infrequency of erections. But the mental habit is another thing. I really hate myself for being drawn to this, instinctively I believe it's a really grave transgression. But how can I not want, what I want? It's a battle, and I'm losing it.
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Don’t feel ashamed or guilty because of this as it is your addiction that makes you attracted to transporn and not sure own personality or mindset. See Porn is very lustful and it can make people watch certain genres that they are not familiar or
previously comfortable with as the brain wants more and more dopamine. So the best thing to do is to retain on Nofap or Semen Retention to start to see women and others in a healthy light and to restore your dopamine levels. First however you should start to work on finding out who you are as a person because these feelings of guilt and shame do not define you in any way that is just the effect of Porn and once you start to break away from Porn and even start to discover new things that you enjoy and find interesting in life you will start to see yourself in a new light. So don’t give in as there is more to you and your life than that.
 
I personally wouldn’t go around defining your sexuality based on what you do as an addict. That would be like a crackhead thinking they’re gay because they gave a bj for some crack-rock.
 
This is some degerate stuff you’re talking about right here. I think you are looking for a more and more exstreme type of sexual desire to keep things fresh and exciting. Stop looking at porn and sexual pictures all togther and maybe you will reset to vanilla stuff
 
Quotidian said:
I have been doing OK in terms of avoiding regular using, but of late I've become drawn to transporn. I've googled this attraction, as you do nowadays, and discovered that a lot of males are grappling with it and wondering where it puts them on the spectrum of sexual orientation. And I also notice there's a lot of media about it on the sites, so a lot of people must be wanting it.

Anyway, I'm in my late 60's now, so my overall testesterone levels have decreased, in fact I can tell that because of the infrequency of erections. But the mental habit is another thing. I really hate myself for being drawn to this, instinctively I believe it's a really grave transgression. But how can I not want, what I want? It's a battle, and I'm losing it.
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Microdosing on physilocieben, meditation and cbt therapy has really helped me and I was in really deep
 
I personally wouldn’t go around defining your sexuality based on what you do as an addict. That would be like a crackhead thinking they’re gay because they gave a bj for some crack-rock.
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better analogy :D:
a vegan assuming he is a carnivore because he ate a hotdog to avoid dying of starvation
 
Haven't checked in here much this year, I thought - silly me - approaching my 70th birthday, all of this is behind me. Unhappily, not. I've managed to avoid focussing on the above-mentioned perversion, but there's a billion other fish in that ocean. Suffice to say, I think at this stage in life, you don't have the same level of libido, for physiological reasons, but the habit is still strong enough to force the issue, from time to time.
 
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