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Help! I am addicted to my fetish

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Feb 4, 2020.

  1. I could be wrong, but I don't think that there is such a thing as a natural fetish.
    From what I understand, fetishes are born from our complex and unnatural society.
    Imagine a monkey or a wolf having a fetish with underpants…
    That's not possible, because they don't have underpants!
     
  2. hollyman

    hollyman Fapstronaut

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    me either, i just see some clip of the tv show on youtube and i havent watch it because its unavailable on my country

    i join because it open, its like having a small community where u can write daily diaries and support each other members

    its fun, i suggest u try it

    there are Saiyan Challenge, the naruto, the lord of the ring, the spartan etc u can choose whenever u feel u like
     
  3. Yesterday I successfully controlled all my urges. The reason behind this is that yesterday I was not at home and busy outside where I couldn't do such things. But I doubt whether I could have done it if I was at home. Because now when I am normal I know many ways of dealing with the urge like running away from it, distracting my mind, positive self-talk etc. But, when I actually get the urge I become so anxious, that I forget everything. I do it as if I am hypnotized or something. I don't know how to be aware and think properly during such situation.
     
  4. I relapsed again. I am fed up of failure. I just don't understand how come everytime I fail despite of all the efforts. I really want to live a happy and peaceful life, but this shitty addiction is not letting me to do so. Feeling shattered.
     
  5. I can't tell you why, because I don't know you. But I can give some ideas. I hope that at least one of these ideas helps you.
    • You're just 15. At that age, you are vulnerable. Teenage brains go through massive rewiring, and this makes it hard to control your behaviour — teenagers are impulsive and moody for a reason! Each time you feel tempted, remind yourself that each relapse is training your brain at a deep level to do this for the rest of your life. Then ask, "Do I want to do this for the rest of my life, or do I actually want to do something great with my life?"
    • I don't know your full story, but the chances are that you have quite a few emotional problems. (Try finding any teenager who doesn't!) Therapy will help you tremendously. You don't say where you live. If it's in the USA or a poor country, you'll depend on your parents, but if you're in Europe (including the UK), you can ask your doctor for help. If you need free help, look for DIY therapy — it's never as good as seeing a professional, but at least you can do it. Search YouTube and elsewhere for CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy — it's complex, but it helps some people); EFT (emotional freedom technique — easy, and is especially good for when you feel most tempted); mindfulness; meditation; and yoga. You might find others.
    • Get a passion! At 15 and addicted to a fetish and porn, it's highly unlikely that you already know what your passion is, so each time when you get the urge, go for a long walk and ask yourself what you're passionate about. Think about all the things that you're good at, and all the things that you love doing even if you're not good at them. It could be philately, construction, music, a specific sport, fashion, architecture, medicine, physics, art, whatever. Just make it a goal to find out what your passion is. (Be patient; don't expect to figure it out immediately. The journey to finding it out is rewarding all on its own!)
    I wonder if it would help you to find an accountability partner?

    Good luck!
     
  6. I am from India and I depend on my parents and l can never tell them about my problem.
    What you said was very relatable. But, why should my brain feel tempted to do such things. Just two balls of flesh to support my bodyweight and a hole to throw out wastes and a piece of cloth is pulled in it creating a lot of pain. And my brain thinks it is something related to sex and will help me produce babies and then it creates pleasure hormones. Then I get some temporary pleasure but my brain who is never satisfied forces me to do more. Though, all of them is the same thing nothing new, I am scrolling down hundreds of images and doing the same thing. After wasting a lot of time and energy and ruining my mood, my brain is still not satisfied. If I tell all this to my brain it stops taking instructions from me and does it. I ask just why? What is it going to give me? Just some chemical mess in my brain which fools me in thinking that I got pleasure. Just why?
     
  7. I wonder what kind of stupid brain I have got. It keeps forcing me to do wedgies for that momentary pleasure. If I think properly when I get the urge I feel my body tensed, I can't focus on anything that I am doing, I feel very uncomfortable. Then when I start doing, I become anxious, my body trembles, heart starts racing, I feel like hell. Going through all the pain of getting a wedgie, finally I reach orgasm. Then, I get the pleasure, it feels good but not more than a minute. After that, my awareness returns. I am filled with guilt and shame. I have to wash my clothes, my day is ruined and again next day the struggle with urges begins. Where is the pleasure? Just that one minute? Then why my brain is forcing me to do all this?
     
  8. Sorry to hear that. I don't suppose that your school has a trusted counsellor?

    May I suggest that you seek some free therapy online? It's obviously not as good as seeing a professional, but at least you can do it in the privacy of your room. Here are four ideas of what to look for; you should find plenty of helpful videos on YouTube:
    • Mindfulness. This helps you to feel the feelings that come underneath the urge. Knowledge gives you power.
    • Meditation. Slows you down, calms you, and helps you to process your emotions. Do this daily for at least 5 minutes each time, gradually increasing in time as you become ready for it.
    • EFT (emotional freedom technique). Use this on all of your problematic emotions, and especially when you feel an uncontrollable urge coming on. EFT is excellent for calming down those uncontrollable urges.
    • Yoga. Yoga helps you to reconnect your mind with your body. Again, knowledge gives you power.
    You don't have a stupid brain. It's working correctly. It's exactly the response that you expect from a fully-functional brain that has been hijacked by wealthy business interests in the huge unethical industry of porn.

    If you want to understand why, read A Science-Based Case for Ending the Porn Epidemic and Start here: Evolution has not prepared your brain for today’s porn (both long reads).

    Have you deleted your porn stash yet? If not, do so right now. Don't hesitate for a second. Just do it. If you have any porn bookmarks, delete them. If you have any online porn accounts, close them. Do it now.

    Good luck
     
  9. Hi everyone. Sorry for not posting for many days as I was trying to distract myself from all this. I have tried most of your ideas and they really helped a lot. Now, though I can feel the urges but now they are weaker than before. I have learnt to control most of them, although I failed sometimes. Today is my birthday and I wish to live the next year clean and healthy. Please wish me all the best.
     
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  10. It sounds like you are progressing, so well done!
    Keep going. The longer you go, the weaker the fetish becomes.
    It will be weak after a 90-day reboot, and very weak after about 200 days (everyone is different).
    After a year, I think that it will be gone.

    I wish you all the best!
     
  11. yourhomieishere

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