Help It's so hard to do NoFap when I'm stressed.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Sincaia, Jul 14, 2020.

  1. Sincaia

    Sincaia New Fapstronaut

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    I was on my 8th day of NoFap yesterday but I failed because of stress caused by online class. My best streak was 14 days but that was around 6 months ago.

    I need help. I found that it is almost impossible for me to do NoFap when I have school, and that it is really easy for me to do NoFap during a weekend. Do you guys have any tips to help me continue my NoFap journey?
     
  2. Asdor22

    Asdor22 Fapstronaut

    Whenever I’m stressed or feeling urges I just meditate, read books or play some music:)
     
  3. You need to find a better way to handle your stress.
     
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  4. I've had trouble doing NoFap when I was struggling in other areas of my life. Try to focus on those areas first. Don't jeopardize your education because of NoFap, but try to do them at the same time.
     
  5. Prince6543

    Prince6543 Fapstronaut

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    I also faced it when I felt extremely stressed out and anxious. This started to increase the urge inside me. At that time, I wasn't able to do anything else except to relapse and masturbate. So the only thing I could figure out thay helped me was to not do anything. Not doing anything is way better than relapsing. I know you can't focus on anything at that timestime just give it some time and let it settle down and then continue with what you were doing and also NoFap
     
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  6. Sincaia

    Sincaia New Fapstronaut

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    I took your word and experimented ways to reduce my stress level or urges, and I found out that watching my favorite shows removed my urges, but I'm not sure if this is just temporary. I will try to see if this can truly consistently help me in my NoFap journey.
     
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  7. . I would advise making sure you get enough sleep.

    Lack of sleep can mess with your cognition, making you more stressed, and potentially leading to relapse
     
  8. Talking to somebody can also be a great stress releaser. You wil find ypur way, I just hope you got the clue that p0rn is not releasing stress but creating very lot of stress and tension.
     
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  9. Prince6543

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    Talking someone can bring stressful too. For example when your friend is online but haven't replied to your message for 5 minutes. It is also a problem for a overthinker like me
     
  10. Reborn16

    Reborn16 Fapstronaut

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    I recommend exercise. I know personally I won't last more than a week clean if I don't get my exercise in... Nothing crazy, 30 mins 4 days a week, plus a bit of walking. Actually considering making my exercise part of my morning routine instead of afternoon, because my mood always picks up afterwards, and stress may not disappear - but it's way more manageable!
     
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  11. verbeek75

    verbeek75 Fapstronaut

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    Excercise, really can help, reading books, listening to music, get a hobby, could be anything, (like building a model kit) whatever that keeps you distracted, do art or how about some games (maybe some co op game, playing with random people) Talking to people, you say you get stressed when your friend is online but haven't replied to your message for 5 minutes, how about actually talking to people pick up a phone, and for example go over your studies together or just talk over the phone.
     
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  12. I would offer the following suggestions:

    1) Stopping one's actions without first stopping one's thoughts in that direction can never hope to succeed. It's like putting your finger over the end of the hose to stop the water instead of simply turning off the valve--eventually, the water will leak. The key is to consciously reject even the thought of doing something that you don't want to do. Don't let your mind dwell or fantasize on any sexual topic, be that the attractive person you just saw, or any thought about what or when you might like to do something you know you would later regret. If you don't let yourself even think about it, you'll have a hard time actually doing it.

    2) Be aware that every time you have an unnecessary drain on the nervous system via sexual stimulation, the depletion of vital energy will cause a corresponding depression. You might feel like you cannot think about anything until you get it over with, but after you have indulged your guilty pleasure you will find that your mind is not truly operating at its best, and that you just traded one problem for another.

    3) Until you've gone 3-4 weeks without succumbing to instant gratification, it will be a real challenge to keep your thoughts away from forbidden subjects. The suggestions of others here to do something that will distract you from those topics are good, especially exercise. Get out of your house and do something. Go help someone else--something that will truly make you feel self-worth, knowing you've done something good.

    4) Do not linger in areas where you may find it hard to restrain your thoughts and actions. The bathroom is an obvious one, but there may be others. Keep busy. Don't let yourself be idle--find something to do. Set your mind on a worthy goal or project, and don't let anything distract you from it.

    5) Once you've gotten into the habit of controlling your thoughts, the journey will get much easier. It takes at least three weeks, they say, to make or change a habit. Give it a try! When the first unwelcome thought enters your mind, reject it immediately. Don't let yourself indulge even the thought of doing something you are choosing not to do. Power of choice is powerful--you can if you will.

    Hope this helps.
     

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