Help me - erection quality.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by The jock, Nov 11, 2021.

  1. The jock

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    Day 24

    This could just all be coincidence

    But I'm on fire with women. Iv had a date every day this week and they all want to fck me. Confidence is high.

    Was kissing last night and could feel a good boner
     
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  2. The jock

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    Day 26

    Dated a girl last night. Kissed . Felt very turned on. Looking forward to results over next couple of months. Will never return to what I was
     
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  3. Sorry to hear you're going through this. I have had ED multiple times since I was 19 – always thought it was due to medication or alcohol but then I realised it was porn. This sounds messed up but you need to fail in the bedroom and it needs to hurt! Maybe this needs to happen a few times for it to truly hit you that this can't go on; you must give up porn if you want an amazing sex life. You are missing out on life! This hit me recently and I'm on the road to recovery. I met a girl and had 4 great dates but failed miserably when it was time to get physical because my libido was nowhere to be found. If it wasn't for ED – I'm sure we'd still be together now. She was extremely good looking so I doubt she'll have trouble finding someone else without ED lol.

    It really hurt man... but it lit a fire under me. Nofap works but only when you go all in! I've tried this journey many times and seen huge improvements but then gradually fell back into old habits when times got tough.

    Erections and libido do come back – with RAGE! When you stop looking at any kind of porn – and focus on things that make your life better, not worse. Best of luck with your recovery!
     
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  4. The jock

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    Same things has happened to me. It took me 13 years to realise it was porn that was causing this.

    Thank you for this. It is very encouraging
     
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  5. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Yes u can heal but it will take time. Depends on how long u did the fapping and porn. If u had normal sex as well or just porn etc. I was a very bad case and it took me years. Im 38, was addicited for 20 years and had almost zero women in that time. Im almost 5 years clean and getting close to normal.
     
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  6. 100% it's the addiction talking, finding a new angle to make us go back to it.

    • "I'm healed; I can watch porn occasionally now" – that's the addiction talking
    • "I'm broken forever – might as well keep watching porn" – that's the addiction talking
    • "I'll have one more porn sess just to sure I can still get hard" – that's the addiction talking
    It's a sneaky MFer lol
     
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  7. Those points were my mindset at one point. Its actually scary to think about it.
     
  8. Yup we've all had them haha! It helps to write them down so that you don't believe them next time they show up.
     
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  9. The jock

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    Well

    Nearly day 28

    When I go for a pee now my balls are noticeably bigger . Also my foreskin looks more normal.
     
  10. Presence108

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    "It really hurt man... but it lit a fire under me. Nofap works but only when you go all in! I've tried this journey many times and seen huge improvements but then gradually fell back into old habits when times got tough."

    My experience exactly. Any shifts you've made this time that helped you NOT fuck up once you started feeling good?
     
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  11. Presence108

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    Cool to your change in attitude between days 8 and 24/26. Big difference.
     
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  12. Pathofsuccess_1

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    You can and will get your erections back if you quit pmo. You need to abstain from erection-inducing activities for at least 50-90 days. including sex, not saying its a relapse, but in my humbly honest opinion, one should say away from ALL sexual acts for the first 2-3 months. This will ensure a full, healthy, full-on reboot with maximum healing and benefits. I consider this extremely important. This is the best advice I can give. JUST quit.
     
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  13. A few things:

    My OCD and depersonalisation were becoming unbearable. I was fighting to get through the day.

    I wrote a letter to myself. Writing out all of the things that I want in life, and how PMO makes all of them impossible. I'm 34 now... I was 25 when I discovered nofap. When you take a minute to read back what you've read – you will realise that engaging with porn will only ruin you. I get angry that there are billionaire porn sites – getting rich of good people pissing their potential away to cheap dopamine hits.

    After reading all of the reasons not to watch porn, you don't watch to do it.

    Use a "days since" app so that you can see how many days it's been. And watch the seconds clock up of you not PMOing.

    Keep a post-it note by your bad and rate your erections in the morning.
    This works for two reasons. One because you are seeing things improve slowly. Two, you are taking a physical action each morning to reinforce that you are doing this. It's not all kept in your head etc.

    But my number one tip is to keep yourself busy. Block out your calendar with things to do. Start a hobby and get obsessed with it.

    And just remember if you go back to porn. You are going back to pain, not pleasure.
     
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  14. The jock

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    Thank you
     
  15. The jock

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    Well 30 days almost complete. This is the longest time in 18 years I haven't masterbated.

    Never thought I would get this far. Don't even really think about masterbation now .
    I know this is only leg 1 of the journey.
     
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  16. The jock

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    Spoke to a friend today

    Did nofap for 6 months

    Mentioned he was in traffic one day during month 6. And almost masterbated the urges were so strong.
     
  17. WorldTraveler32

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    I’m 35 years old and fapped since age 14 and looked at porn . Quit porn just over a year ago . I did nofap for the first time this year back in July - 144 days total of hardmode and finally back with my gf who lives abroad . No erections of any kind around her still even though she’s hot . Wake up with morning wood though so I know it works . The ONLY difference I’ve noticed so far is that the sensitivity is through the roof and I orgasm/ejaculate much faster and it’s pleasurable . Before I’d last much longer and it wasn’t as pleasurable . But in terms of ED, 144 days hasn’t done much . In the mean time I’m taking pills to facilitate the process and once my time with her is over before going home I’ll stick to hardmode as I was doing . Realistically I’m probably looking at 1 year before my issues are over .
     
  18. It's daunting to think that one has to wait so long to see if there's any benefits at all. That's a big mountain to climb imo...
    Idk what you define by handmode, but I'm almost 100 days in and I still don't see any benefits of any sort.
     
  19. The jock

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    30 days today NoFap

    Had sex an hour or so ago. Was rock hard.

    Nofap has certainly given me more confidence. If you are suffering...you have to give it a go. It has been totally worth it.
     
  20. The jock

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    Believe in nofap

    I was sceptical

    It's now changed my life. I have no reason to lie or deceive.
     
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