Help me out plz

Hello Mate!

I am currently on day 7 of my NoFap journey and let me tell you, I have already started getting glimpses of the great improvement that I'm gonna experience... I have been more active than ever, my confidence levels are high, I feel like people are looking at my better side of my personality...

Here are few things that I'm doing:
1.Whever I have an urge to jerk off, I leave the place where I am sitting and start doing something totally different. Like doing the dishes, reading books, calling and chatting randomly with a friend etc.
2.I try to keep myself as busy as possible.
3.When I feel like my urge to relapse is getting stronger, I start to socialize. I go and meet a bunch of friends, go for a walk/jog outside..
4.I had started a stopwatch in my phone on day 2. So whenever I look at my phone, I see how many hours I have spent without relapsing and that really gives me hope to go on..

Hope this helps you a little..

 

Great advice!!!! I don’t have as a goal to not masturbate, as I do it extremely rarely. I can say 100% from experience that staying active like the above, really helps to avoid procrastination and restlessness, which is often when urges hit. In the process of staying busy, form new habits or pay attention to your existing ones if you have them.

Apart from that, at some point in your journey, I also recommend doing the opposite, staying put with little activity:

1. Meditating for a couple of minutes or taking it on as a habit.

2. Just walking and going outside, taking in the environment.

3. Picking up a book to read

4. Putting a timer on, and doing nothing for 5-10 min. You’d be surprised how aware you are after.

 

Awesome!! This will surely help you as you will get older like 18 till 24-25, when frequency urge to masturbate is usually gets high..

 

Relapsed.

What do you guys usually do to deal with urges to masturbate? I often got this during the midnight, or at about 4 am when I woke up with no reason, and ending up relapsed. It make me feels like such a loser.

 

Don't worry, you were atleast able to reach here, many people are still stuck there, just believe in yourself and keep moving forward, just like you were able to reach here, similarly you will learn what you need to do next, sooner or later you will be out of that trash.
Spend some time here, there is a different section for success stories, you can pick and read any of those. You can join challenges, develop new hobbies, and focus on other parts of your life.

 

Thank you for the advice!

 

Thank you