Help me understand relationships

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by trynaquitpmoforgood, Feb 1, 2021.

  1. trynaquitpmoforgood

    trynaquitpmoforgood Fapstronaut

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    Another post:

    Every time I relapse my brain thinks of either sex or relationships, and I know they're not the same. I really don't want to be in a relationship just for sex I feel like that'd be bad for me at this time during recovery. I guess I'm going hardmode then? Because I don't know when I'll get a gf or if I'll get one, and I really don't want to rely on that.
    Due to PMO all I can think about is that part of relationships, but I know that doesn't happen until much later, but another part of me really wants the intimacy of a relationship. Which again, probably doesn't come until much later.

    Again, I know next to nothing about relationships, Thanks a whole lot PMO Is there anywhere I can learn about dating in general. Not gonna ask anyone close to me. I've tried when I was struggling but none of them were helpful.
     
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  2. luke775

    luke775 Fapstronaut

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    Hey man I wouldn't stress too much about getting into a relationship. If you rush into it you may end up with the wrong girl which is a disaster. Work on yourself and it'll all happen naturally (probably when you least expect it). If you work on yourself and wait for the right girl it will be a lot more intimate. You will love her for her and she will love you for you. She'll love you for being yourself and that level of intimacy is not found when you rush into the nearest relationship.

    I'm no expert but if you have any questions feel free to ask me. Also, may I ask how old you are?
     
  3. trynaquitpmoforgood

    trynaquitpmoforgood Fapstronaut

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    I'm 24, but I really don't act my age at all, and thanks. Yeah, natural is probably best. I've tried forcing relationships before. It never worked.
     
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    TheForsakeen Fapstronaut

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    just don't be too *natural*(read aloof or whatever here) there's guys on this forum who are in their 40 and still virgins not saying its a bad thing but you won't get if you don't actively look for is what i am getting at.
     
  5. luke775

    luke775 Fapstronaut

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    Yeah agreed. I should've mentioned that in my post.
     
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