Help ! Need advise ..

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by IWantToBeAHuman, Jun 15, 2017.

  1. IWantToBeAHuman

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    My girlfriend and i didnt saw each other for about a week .
    I will going to see her really soon and my problem is that im afraid to relapse because my girlfriend is my greatest trigger .. just seeing her makes me so horny .. what should i do ?
     
  2. Blackenglish2017

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    If it's natural than let it be. But if you can fight the urge than I commend you. I personally know that I couldn't say no to female contact. The main thing you have to understand is what is your aim of NoFap. Is it to get off porn and be a human again?
     
  3. IWantToBeAHuman

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    .my reasons for starting nofap is to quit visualizing women as a sexual object . And stop intrusive thoughts specially with my girlfriend . Whenever i see her personally or just in the picture . I really get horny and depression and anxiety comes in . I always look for her flaws because i always feel that she is out of my league that shes too good for me .. and im having a hard time building or maintaining emotional connection with my girlfriend ... i dont wanna be like this :(
     
  4. Blackenglish2017

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    Yes the steps you can take is to avoid negative thoughts entering your head is by switching. For example you see a half naked woman on an advertisement board you have to look away and think about sports. If you hear porno sounds coming from a unknown source quickly listen to music or talk to yourself loudly. If your girlfriend wants sex don't hold back just do it but try and make it more in a loving way. Cuddle her, kiss her, rub her feet. Don't just have sex like in a porn set.
     
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  5. IWantToBeAHuman

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    I just watch porn earlier ! :( is this relapse ? I didnt masturbate thou .
    But i get super horny .. and my penis feels like its ready to explode ? Do i need to reset my counter ? :(
    Btw thanks for replying in my thread . I really appreciate it
     
  6. Blackenglish2017

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    Yes I remember saying all that stuff and I did masturbate. So now I'm on day 2 now but I starting to understand the process. I'm still learning. But I'm not perfect.
     
  7. IWantToBeAHuman

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    Do i need to reset my counter ? Cause its been 7 days since i started No-PMO .. how long is your longest streak ?
     
  8. Blackenglish2017

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    I don't know what streak means because I'm still new to this. Can you explain please?
     
  9. IWantToBeAHuman

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    It means how many days or weeks you last without PMO
     
  10. IWantToBeAHuman

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    And sir can you please give me some advise or tips how to last long in bed . Cause i have PE issue
     
  11. Blackenglish2017

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    8 days. But when I used to be in the Army I usually go for 5 days and than relaps
     
  12. Blackenglish2017

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    To be honest with you. The average time in bed is 3mins. The longest sex is 20mins with the viarga
     
  13. IWantToBeAHuman

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    I only last seconds :( i cant control my ejaculation .. when im seeing something sexual whether in screen or in real life . My breathing got really heavy and my penis feels like anytime its ready to explode .
     
  14. Blackenglish2017

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    Yeah that can happen when you are excited or over excited. It is heart breaking.
     
  15. IWantToBeAHuman

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    How can i change myself so that i can control my arousal and avoid getting overly excited ? Please give me some advice :( i will really appreciate it from the bottom of my heart , i have no one to ask to.
     
  16. Blackenglish2017

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    Why do you get excited when you have a beautiful girlfriend? Plus she is lucky that she has a loving boyfriend like yourself.
     
  17. IWantToBeAHuman

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    That what im getting excited about . Im so into her . I love all of her imperfections , all her flaws . And when its about sex . My body and my mind just automatically become so excited and my penis becomes so sensitive that its ready to blow anytime
     

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