Help needed!!!!!!!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Theoldsoul, Feb 25, 2019.

  1. Theoldsoul

    Theoldsoul Fapstronaut

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    Hey!
    I'm 20 and masturbating from when I was 14-15. Sometimes regular . Sometimes twice a week . And sometimes even thrice a day .
    I am just starting this nofap thing . I have pied and here I am very much freaked out and messed up. I couldn't sleep at night thinking about how it can ruin my life . Before last week everything was going .I was doing porn and masturbation and it was good. I was getting hard on touching myself without even watching porn just by stimulating by my hand. I knew before that I can't get hard just by being around girls and by making out. But I thought that when I'll be in a scenario of sex I'll manage. but I recently did so much research on nofap and pied and now it's stuck in my mind that I've pied . Before a week I was not thinking about that and now I can't even masturbate. I'm not getting hard even by my hand .after reading the articles , I was checking if i'm good with my hand. And Whenever I think about that I get so nervous and afraid that my dick gets semi erect only .it's like my mind don't even let me get aroused because I know I'll fail. And now it's very much bothering me. I can't concentrate on studies , I am in a relationship, not serious though and I'm thinking about breaking up. I'm starting nofap from today and I don't want to be in a relationship till the time period it takes to heal. Though I've abstained myself from pmo for like 10-20 days many times in the past. just normally like for exams .
    Please please help . I'm very much afraid.
     
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  2. Mister Fire

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    Except why is your name "theOLDsoul" if you're only 20? It doesn't make any sense!!! That's the only REAL thing you should be "very much afraid" of and concerned about.
     
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  3. Theoldsoul

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    I expected something about my problem . Not this
     
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  4. Mister Fire

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    “Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”
    ― Alexander Pope

    Some wise words in your most troubled times...
     
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  5. icantbelieveit

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    Just forget about all that crap. Relax, take a deep breath, and remove porn and masturbation from your life. After a few WEEKS, not days but weeks, maybe re-evaluate and see where you are and how you feel...maybe with your girlfriend(or bf whatever). Until then take it easy, and just remove it from your life for now. Once it's removed from your life you will have more time to study and pursue other hobbies with no pressure.
     
  6. Talalelsayed

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    A couple of good news:-
    1) the shorter the addiction and the younger the age, the easier the reboot process.
    2) even if you have PIED, it is reversable.

    Stay strong and don't overblame yourself.
     
  7. Theoldsoul

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    I'm just concerned about my future sex life and will I be cured or not?
    Because it's just shattering my confidence .
     
  8. Barnabas_

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    As it was said above, it is reversable. Give yourself time, maybe weeks, maybe months, everyone is different. In my case if I was masturbating and watching porn for years, I don't expect to be healed instantly (emotionally, physically). I am learing to be patient and live without porn and masturbation one day at a time.
     
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  9. Theoldsoul

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    The fact that even my mind is not ready to let me arouse is bothering me. When I didn't know that I have pied it was working good ( masturbating) but now when I know this I can't even get erect because of the sudden nervousness in my brain.
     
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  10. Liv4ever

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    Really... Ur mister fire nd u wanna make fun of other ppls username.. Ur one crazy dude ;p
    I like u
     
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  11. Qlata

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    is your anxiety. u need relax i was 2 or 3 months whit no erections and 0 libido(because i was whit anxiety, depression, desesperation and bad things on my mind ) and i feel u cuz FEELS LIKE SHIEEEET¡¡
    YOU PROBABLY THINK UR SEXUAL LIFE IS FUCKED, but isnt like that, you need R E L A X.
     
  12. Theoldsoul

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    Are you cured now? How much time did it take?
     
  13. Qlata

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    YEAH, i have my erections again buddy, but took me 2or 3 months lol feels like hell¡¡ but u need learn to realx or control ur anxiety. NOW I GOT MORNING WOOD SUPER MORNING WOODS. A COUPLE DAYS AGO I WAS WHIT A CHICK AND I GOT A BONER JUST WHIT TOUCHING THE ASS XD and feels great have that feeling again. you need relax is gonna take time belive me for me was like nightmare I WAS LIKE MY SEXUAL LIFE IS FUCKED lol. but now i feel better a lot of erections libido everything.
     
  14. Westsidejimmy

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    Dude,

    It's gonna be ok. You're young and will heal nicely. Don't wait until you're an old man like some of us.
     
  15. lifeinhell

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    And you don't have to break up with your partner just relax and BREAK UP WITH THE BITCH NAMED PORN.
     
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  16. Theoldsoul

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    But we're only a couple of month old together and I can't share this with her. Morever talking to her always make me think about the pied and my mind get messed up. Plus we're in a long distance relationship and in couple of weeks she is going to meet me and that will lead to sex and I don't want to get disappointed .
     
  17. Theoldsoul

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    ImI just concerned about the pied thing. I've pretty much control over my urges . I just want this period to get over. And just need surity that this pied is curable and I'll again have erections without touching myself.
     
  18. lifeinhell

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    Then I would suggest you to do meditation, push the thought out, don't overthink about it. The very thought is clouding your lust and consequently giving you a hard time. Also don't act on the thought, "What is the status now?,Can I get a erection now? Let's touch or think to see what happens." You behavior is leading toward OCD. Don't go there, It's dangerous, I am suffering it.

    It's upto you if you want to break up. Can you try to postpone this meeting?
     
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  19. AN0NYMAUZ

    AN0NYMAUZ Fapstronaut

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    I feel like having a girlfriend during this process would make it 10x easier.
     
  20. lifeinhell

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    For me It would be 100x.
     

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