Help talk me down and not give into temptation

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by superstorm250, Aug 14, 2020.

  1. superstorm250

    superstorm250 Fapstronaut

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    I really need some help as words of encouragement to not give into temptation for one of the worst parts of my addiction. You see, I’m not just addicted to P, but I’m also addicted to hearing about girls’ sex lives. I’ve been addicted to that for about 5 years now, and by that I mean that I’ll go on the X rated Kik subreddits to find girls willing to talk about their sex lives and they then tell me about their sexual encounters in graphic detail while I masturbate to what they’re telling me. No pics are ever exchanged, we just talk about her sex life the whole time. I feel like shit every time I do it and I still struggle to keep myself from doing it. I’m currently facing a lot of temptation to do it again later tonight, even though I know I’ll feel like shit if I give in again. I need some words of encouragement to stop me from giving in and doing this again tonight.
     
  2. You can change your life brother. The power of transformation lies in your own hands.
     
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  3. superstorm250

    superstorm250 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, I just hope I’m successful. I have PIED too and it sickens me that I have no problem getting off to a girl telling me about the all the times she’s had sex, but I can’t get off when I’m actually with a girl myself.
     
  4. Tryingto

    Tryingto Fapstronaut

    Hey @superstorm250, I have three suggestions (for what they are worth):
    1. Remember the above; this is what you don't want in recovery;
    2. Then spend some time figuring out what you do want in recovery;
    3. With both these tasks done, do the next right thing.
    Wishing you well. And congrats on coming here for support.
     
  5. Shambler

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    Go out instead. Doesnt matter where, go outside. Go for a walk. Go watch a movie or something. Remove yourself from a situation where you can actually do the thing you are tempted to do.
     
  6. runner0424

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    Here are is some of my story and tips that helped me. Everyone is different, but maybe you haven’t thought of some of these.

    I relapsed twice after 6 months Or so. I’m currently 6months and 9 days or so free from that relapse.

    I have learned a lot in my struggle with porn. One, is what triggers me. A lot on the internet and tv triggered me(seeing beautiful women). I believe my last relapse was super bowl halftime show, I didn’t relapse that night, but like a week or two after it, but those images stayed with me and I kept wanting more, even after 6 months.

    I also researched And watched videos of the science behind it all and it releases dopamine In your brain and scary how the addiction can become when I thought I could control it.

    the ways I feel like I have conquered it for good was that I had my wife put in an adult filter password that I don’t know what it is(it could be a friend if not married). It’s my backup plan when having a bad day and can’t see the adult sites. I also don’t watch shows that could trigger me and try to turn my head if I think a scene is coming. More importantly though, I have really grown in my faith with God. I have listened to so many sermons on temptations and that has helped me tremendously. Rick Warren and Greg Laurie are 2 of my favorites and have helped me a ton!! I learned about all the garbage I was putting in my mind. The analogy was how we have to watch what we eat, we can’t eat McDonald’s fried food every meal without bad consequences, the same thing applies with what you consistently put in your mind.
    “Above Inspiration” YouTube videos are great too. Give them a listen, it’s usually 10-20 min long.

    Hopefully this helps and try and learn as much as possible and avoid whatever gets you tempted and triggered. Get going on another streak and make it a lifestyle change and don’t beat yourself up if you have a relapse. Just learn from it and keep trying to do better.

    I also told myself , I would help as many people possible struggling with this as I could once when I got it under control.
     
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  7. Tryingto

    Tryingto Fapstronaut

    An inspiring post altogether, @runner0424 . Thanks and congratulations.
     
  8. Survival 3 Man

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    Practice self talk basically talk to your emotions when triggered that this action will not help you become a loving faithful husband and father and damages your relationship with God. You are using this women for fantasy which is not moral. I know I cant take but belief systems must change in order to become a man with integrity. Good luck
     
  9. ElderStatesman

    ElderStatesman Fapstronaut

    Although I haven’t done the stuff you’re mentioning, I think in the end we’re similar, because we’re talking about the temptation of the highs, the kicks and the compulsion to keep going back

    I’m a 25 year veteran at porn addiction. (If they paid you to do it, I could single handedly retire the national debt.) So me giving advice on quitting is like a 500 lb. guy trying to peddle diet tips. But we’re here, man. I am going to do this is what I have to keep telling myself. That’s all, folks.

    Day Two is Done
    One Day at a Time
     

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