Help with ED

Great!! Thank you for that response. I generally feel that I will have to go this route as well. I think the time together. D get resemsitized is what is gong to do it in the end for me. I am getting a bit of a response when kissing but I honestly feel that anxiety is taking over me when I get more physical with the woman I am seeing. I think I need to relax more and enjoy what she does land that is gong to have to happen at a slower pace. It is frustrating but I have no other choice at this point. Almost to the five month point of no PMO so maybe in the next month I will start getting some sensitization back soon. My sleep needs a lot of work because that is lacking and is going to cause trouble for me. I feel probably six months and might start seeing better results.

How far along no PMO are you at this point? Remember too that your getting angry is causing the mental blockage. Relaxing and arousal is what is needed..

 

I am 56 days without watching porn and 1 day without Mo. But my journey is more focussed on never watching porn again, rather then never touching myself again. I am aware that it was a slip-up and i still try not to touch myself as much as i can.
I feel SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better by now, since the start of the year.

And yeah, you need to remember again that there was a guy who needed 1 and a half years to recover. Gotta give it time.

I would suggest to not just focus on no PMO. Figure out how to become really fkn good in bed. Not just good. "I will remember this for the rest of my life"- good.

It the same with everything. If you put effort into any one area of your life, you WILL get results.
I think being present is the key with sex. You need to educate yourself a shitload to have every tool available for you, but once you are with her, you just need to be fully present and enjoy the moment.
No stress of performing, no stress of getting it up in time, nothing.
Just enjoy being together.

I can't wait to have sex again, it is going to be fkn awesome for the girl and for me.
It is going to be one(or two, haha) happy girl(s) : )
Everything i wrote in brackets just represent my dreams. Not that i would rule that out in the future tho

 

Hey, just wanted to ask though how long PMO free until you decided to have sex...

 

I can't tell exactly because i don't know when i started. It was the time before this forum. I would say roughly 1 and half monts. Around 45 days of nofap i think.

But i am not going to lie. Knowing that i will probably sleep with her when we meet just made the whole no-pmo thingy a non-existent issue in my life. I wasn't even thinking about it at all. I was writing with that girl almost every day, i did my workouts, went kayaking, running, reading, i always had shit to do.

The main factor was that i knew i was going to see her again. Just knowing i will be intimate again with a girl i really liked threw all of the issues with Nofap overboard. And i can already tell now that the only reason why this shit is so godfuckingdamn hard for me is only because i have nobody to be intimate with.
We humans are social animals and intimacy and sex is build into our very core. And trying to repress that is super difficult, and i a certain way, also unnatural.

I know i will go back to dating the second after i moved. Not necessarely to have sex. But i want wamen in my life and want to lie next to them and kiss them tenderly. I love that shit almost the same, if not more, then i love having good sex.

It is a conscience decision i make for my life. I will focus my life on including wamen and enjoy the time with them as much as i can. Because they have an amazing energy and build me up. And i know i had 31 years without them. And you know fucking what? 31 years i was worrying about wamen. THE WHOLE FUCKING TIME.
I strongly believe that if a man gets his shit in order with wamen and makes sex normal, not something special out of needyness, a normal part of life, he is able to live the life that a real man is supposed to live.

In the end, it has to be a choice. If i can't get myself to the point where i have the choice of whether i can have sex or not, i know that i will always crave it.

So i am going on this journey to transform myself into a guy that gets to have the choice.

Because there is nothing more interesting to a beautiful wamen then a man where she where she knows that he is able to seduce and sleep with other beautiful wamen without any problems as well.

It is one of the most powerful character traits a man can have. For a beautiful wamen, maybe even the most powerful.

 

I am gladly referring to this post, keeps me going as well:

A guy who needed more then a year to fully heal

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/long-term-reboot-success.203440/

 

dude i hace HARD FLACCID. and the first time this happend to me wasnt able to get a DAM¡¡ ERECTION. took me 2-3 months to relax and say bye to depression IF U HAVE HARD FLACCID, DONT STRESS, ANXIETY O DEPRESSION IS GONNA BE A DAMN NIGHTMARE. now after i forget the anxiety and other problems, ur positions check when ur sit or standig or on the bed if u feel soft ur penis. when u see ur dick is soft THERE IS WHEN U CAN GET A ERECTION¡ (IN MY CASE IS WHEN I AM SIT AND THE BED) IF i am standing my penis feel hard and whit veins really noticeable, but i can get a erections but is a litle difficult lol is uch better then have nothing belive me.
FROM THE STAR AT TODAY I HAVE THIS TIPS IF U HAVE THIS THING CALL HARD FLACCID:
dont stress, anxiety, depression,
stop masturbating ( forget it, even if u feel u never gonna have a erection, just dont touch urself)
control ur braind man, fo real when i star control my brain, my libido comback and morning woods return. now i got erectios if i think fantasy whit some chicks xD.
dont take any pill for aneixty or that stupid shieets. control ur brain.
in my case if i do exercise i feel my penis go harder and feel more contracted.(then go normal) so idk if u make exercise and check ur penis what happend.
do stretches they say are really good and they cured this stuffs. IN PERSONAL CASE, I NEVER DO THIS I DONT HAVE TIME. BUT i really want do it.
theres a youtuber call greg HF he upload videos about this condition, he say hes cured and he show some rutines and explains what is this hard flaccid.

WARNING: THIS IS ONLY IF YOU HAVE HARD FLACCID¡¡¡¡¡¡

 

I'm going to give you some advice, just understand this is obviously 100% up to you so I don't want you to feel pressured in any way to break your streak, etc. I just want to share what's worked for me -

IMO, it's ok to masturbate. It's actually pretty damn healthy IMO, and in my experience. You're just experiencing a really bad flatline. The way to jumpstart your libido when flatlining is masturbation, at least for me. The key though is this - if and when you masturbate,

* Don't think about porn
* Don't watch porn
* Don't think about a pornstar
* Imagine a very realistic scenario with a real-world girl that leads to sex - you ultimately want to run through a normal sexual scenario with a real girl in your mind so that you can get comfortable again with the idea of sex with a woman, how things should go, etc. This will help re-calibrate your brain to get aroused by real women.
* Only masturbate once every 48-72 hours. If you find your starting to do it more often than that, you need to get ahold of yourself and start meditation or something to try to get things back under control. Again, masturbation IMO is perfectly healthy, it just has to not be done too much, and not be done to extreme thoughts / situations, otherwise regular vanilla sex will begin to become "boring" again and that will make it difficult to have erections.

Another thing that might help you is working out. It's done wonders for me. When you start building your muscles up and feeling good about yourself, that helps libido as well. Good luck my friend!

 

I think only guys who actually have access to regualar sex and don't have any problems with ED, DE or similar dysfunctions should have the right to MO. Otherwise you train your brain to get a dopamine rush from the touch and the orgasm without having a wamen to do it for you.

I started my journey like this, but i can feel how much better and more healing it is for my brain when i go full no-pmo. It is just the better mindset.
If a guy manages to overcome those urges while NOT having access to sex, that is when you have truly succeeded.
But it is BY FAR the most difficult route and the reason why so many fail to do it in the first place.
The brain can't cope with the fact of not having any wamen in their lives. Not from porn and not from real life. And that is fighting nature. It takes a strong determination to do that, you MUST have the will to literally sacrifice the present for a better future.
Only people who are able to push through this (sometimes horrible) time come out and are able to enjoy life to the fullest later.
It really is like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly when you go through Nofap for the first few months. Close yourself off and fight it with all your might. When you do, you will be rewarded with beauty and the ablity to fly. Literally.

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I whole heartedly agree with you on that. I did the same thing now for five months and going without both does make you go a bit crazy while fighting urges. I think with this method we don’t need to search out instant pkeadire and take time to find a really good partner then. At least that is my goal with nodal is to find someone good to share yourself with ...

 

A cute girl with a great character is worth 100x more then a hot chick that you don't have any connection with.
But that is very specific. If you have a throwaway email address, could you make the the erotic blueprint quiz?

https://surveyanyplace.com/s/eroticblueprint

i am really curious what kind of type you are.
It so often overlooked that everybody has different kind of turn-on and turn-off's. We just assume that everyone is plain sexual, but that just isn't the case.
Knowing what you are and knowing what kind of type your partner is helps tremendously in forming more intimate relationships. And it also makes us more secure in our own sexuality, because we know what we want and can openly communicate about it. Everyone should take this test, and even though it isn't a perfect representation, it is still a great indicator of what different kind of arousal each of us need.
Not every man is a plain sexual type.
Not every women is a plain sensual type.

It really is hugely beneficial to know how we can get turned on, as well as the people we are interested in.

 

Probably not literally. But you definitely need to do what's best for you.

What I've found is just regular masturbation to my thoughts is fine as long as it's not done too frequently. The reason for this is when I have sex with my wife, the actual sight, running my hands all over her body, etc. is so much more intense from an arousal angle than just masturbating to my thoughts that I get rock hard for sex with her - and the primary reason for that is abstinence from porn. By not seeing naked women all the time in videos and the like, when I do see my wife naked, especially when we're getting ready to have sex, it's an extra strong boost in the arousal department.

I remember back when I was young before I got married it was the same way - just masturbating to thoughts was fine - when I would get in bed with a girl I'd be rock hard because of the novelty of it. When you're not used to seeing naked girls and then are finally in a situation with one it's usually more than enough to get you cranked sexually.

But like I said, no judgment from me - by all means do what you think is best for you, I just know from experience how tough it is to never allow yourself to have an orgasm, and I'm one who just believes it's a healthy part of life to have that outlet - like anything else you just can't let it go out of control, either. No different from say, consuming too much sugar - if you're eating cake and drinking soda all day long, there are going to be long-term repercussions on your body for that and it's the same with sex / masturbation. All things in moderation.

 

You should check out the actual thread i made after writing this one. I think this topic is so important and i go more in depth in it. Might be interesting for you.

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...-and-all-of-your-sexual-relationships.219810/

And i had a feeling that you are probably the sensual type, at least at the moment : )