Help with girl I can't get over

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by GA93JDeereboy, Jul 19, 2018.

  1. GA93JDeereboy

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    Your pretty close about what you say. She has been wronged before. She was raised in a way and that has made her like the way she is. She would be like the controller type. She wanted what she wanted. Whether it was to go to the store, booze, money. She wouldn't hardly ask for it but she would make you say yes it. It's only been a month or so so it hasn't been long. I'm alot better now then when I wrote that. I will not text her. I don't think I will if she does text. It's been alot of hurt and i dont just want sex from her although she may not believe me. I would always tell her i love her I do love her now. But the whole situation was bad.

    I'm thinking maybe it could be years later and we may bump heads and be better but maybe I'm wrong about that too.
     
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  2. best_accountant88

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    you shouldn't be on the verge on suicide over this. what you should do instead is something way better. you should fuck some really hot chick. (or get head from her). if you currently have bad skills with women, then just find a very attractive escort. when you're done, put the used condom in an envelope and send it to this demon bitch you're having a problem with.
     
  3. Jason_Tesla_19

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    No, "demon bitch" could get herself pregnant with the used condom and have OP on the hook for 18 years of child support.
     
  4. best_accountant88

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    I suppose that could possibly be a concern. however I'd still say it's a good plan because I highly doubt the sperm would survive in an envelope that long.
     
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  5. SirErnest

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    I didn't need to read it all. I saw some references to things like giving her money. If she needs it, fine, but if she doesn't, then you are following your sex desire. You come across as a young man, and that's ok of course. Try to see things for what they are (don't listen to your penis), and don't give her money until she has proven how much you mean to her. Better to not impregnate at this time. Good luck man.
     
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  6. GA93JDeereboy

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    No way man. It's now been since end of July since I've had any contact with her.
    Sexual harassment. Jail. I don't hold a grudge. Sometimes I thing negative but I can't recall ever saying anything mean to her. I am the nice guy. She was into the asshole guy. It is done.
    Focus on my goals. No escorts, no way.
    Been there, doesn't help when you are fully capable of meeting a woman and not handicapped or anything wrong with you. Don't need to think bad about her. I'll remember the fun we had and hopefully one day it will be over with. Maybe in the next life.
     
  7. Forgotten_knight

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    Well done lad
     
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  8. Hitto

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    This is terrible advice lol just ignore her and move on and work on your self esteem without feeling the need to get validation from others
     
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  9. Minsc

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    @GA93JDeereboy Sounds like you made the right call. Take what ever good you had from the relationship and continue carrying on moving forward with her life. Doesn't sound healthy for either of you to be in contact.

    There are some women in my past I still feel like contacting. Lessons learned.
     
  10. GA93JDeereboy

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    Last night I messed up. I got drunk and the buzz messed me up. I ended up messaging her. Idk if she will reply or not. But I'm back to working on day 1 after doing a good streak. I'm not depressed but I probably dont need to drink anymore or any amount like I had done last night. I started another thread in this same category about my reset. Thx for feedback again.
     
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  11. guess what , I ended up texting my ex a huge long emo message a couple days ago. We are on the same page bro......
    (My ex doesnt reply :D . She has enough rich guys around her )
     
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  12. GA93JDeereboy

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    UchihaObito26, thx for your feedback. I was buzzed out of it. Idk if that's a good excuse for me but I'm not going to message her back. She may email me or whatever. Just got to focus on working and being successful and helping my family.
     
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  13. AUTiger7222

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    She's just using you bro. Best thing to do is cut off all communication with her. I've had a similar type deal I deal with for about 2 1/2 years. The only way to ever get back straight again is to cut off all communication and forget that she even exists. It's gonna hurt like hell for a while but eventually you'll get over her and move on with your life. You'll realize that despite how much you loved her, she never felt the same way and a one-sided relationship or friendship or friends with benefits, whatever you want to call it, well it just will kill you every time. Just block her and move on with your life. Take it one day at a time and before you know it you'll realize that your entire being isn't wrapped up in her and you'll start feeling better.
     
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  14. Mike Bonanno

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    I feel you Bro and if I may suggest... Delete her contact information and move on. You're worth so much more than her. Sounds to me that she doesn't love, respect or even like you very much, so it's time to cut your losses and move on. Do what ever you have to do, but delete/ block her off from your life.
    Think it this way; Would you do the same to anybody than she's done to you? Most definitely not. No decent person would do that to another person. She's a resource vampire and not worth your time or effort. You're worth much more than crap you're getting from her.

    And remember: Booze contains usually only bad decisions and even worst memories ;)
     
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  15. Zamyou

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    My first impression is that this is a toxic relationship... i dont think open relationships work because sex is such a strong feeling, it can revive a committed relationship or kill an open relationship... i think you have tried your best but honestly if she is as much into you as you are of her, she will be desperate to get back to you and commit to you...

    My 5,5yr relationship ended 1,5 years ago and i was a mess.. part of it might have been because we grew aparnt but she also wanted to kind of open the relationship up... i considered the option but then i just passed.. those grounds are not good for extending a relationship...

    What i DO know is that you will be okay and you WILL fall for other girls eventually.. ! Relax and take some time for yourself !
     
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  16. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, just imagine if you got her pregnant. hahaha You would be Royally Fudged!

    I have a sneaking suspicion that if you stop giving her money and doing her favours you will hear from her much less.
     
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  17. GA93JDeereboy

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    Well guys I wanted to update this. I dug to find it and well after over 1.5 years later, today i went up to see her. I got there and knocked but didn’t get an answer. I heard something inside but I don’t know. also today I saw my first therapist.
    I do now think a little more about her, I haven’t heard anything in all this time.
    Idk if I should go back again?????
    I only came in peace and for good intentions.
     
  18. GA93JDeereboy

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    I just reread a lot of this, kinda sparks my memory, maybe i screwed up?
    I gave it some time, waited till after Christmas, decided maybe she can be a friend but keep it distant and just say hey again? Well didn’t get a answer, maybe I’ll go back again but maybe I woke her up and she was all freaking out when she woke up and peaked out and saw me idk????

    I’m not wanting to be bad guy in the slightest. Any thoughts please?
     
  19. johnmicormick

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    Just let her go man, get a life
     
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  20. Rick_Sanchez

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    move the hell on this girl is trash
     

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