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Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Tiredwanker, Oct 17, 2019.

  1. Tiredwanker

    Tiredwanker New Fapstronaut

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    Hello, I am a 22 year old male who has problems woth erectile dysfunction. A year ago i tried having sex with two beautiful girls, both times i failed to get a proper erection. It was very stressful and i haven't tried having sex since. But i can see that my erections just are not the same as when i was 17,18 years old.( Thats when i had sex multiple times a week for 2 years).
    I started masturbating to dirty magazines since i was 11, 12 years old and later on i got access to porn which I am still using. I do manage to orgasm but i don't think sex would be successful because i need to constantly touch it to keep it erect.
    I would like your advice because this problem is really affecting my life and happiness. I think about it every day, i went to see a urologist and he told me to use erection enhancing medicine just once to see that everything is okay with me but i just don't want to, what do you think i should do? Which would you recommend?

    Thank you in advance,
     
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  2. OldKingCole

    OldKingCole New Fapstronaut

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    Are you fat? If you're over weight, the blood is going to all those other places, rather than your dink. Also, stop with the porn mate. That shit is a artifical super stimuli that desensitized your dink, especially since you started at 11 bro. You should read books and articles online, not touch your....
     
  3. Tiredwanker

    Tiredwanker New Fapstronaut

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    I'm actually slim, 194cm, 90kg, muscular. I stopped watching porn 10 days ago and last night i tried masturbating without porn...It was hard and i was like 50% erect but i managed to orgasm, I am really getting worried about this. I have a gf and I'm somehow avoiding sex because we just started the relationship but i don't know how long i can pull it off. Should i reset my timer to zero days and try again or what?
     
  4. ola501

    ola501 Fapstronaut

    Take your time, and avoid porn at all costs.
     
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  5. You should do a reboot for at least 90 days hard mode. No porn, no masturbation and no orgasm. Doing this with discipline will rewire your brain back to your normal self. It's science and it's been proven multiple times. Porn induced erectile disfunction is very real and a widespread phenomenon. Watching porn and masturbating will make it harder for you to stay hard in normal situations, it filters reality to the point that you don't get as excited as you should with real girls.

    It could be hard to combine it with your girlfriend but if she can get onboard it might even be helpful to be open about it with her and speed up the recovery.

    Your situation is tricky but its solvable and as I said, it's scientifically proven.
     
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  6. Tiredwanker

    Tiredwanker New Fapstronaut

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    Man, I really hope you are right. I set the timer now and I am willing to do anything just to get this problem solved, its really tiring to constantly think whats wrong with me and felling like half a man.

    I tried to reboot and came to the 10 day mark, the thing that got me was complete abscence of erections so i wanted to see if everything is okay. My new gf is really understanding + she is a virgin so she also doesn't want to rush sex but i don't think I can get myself to tell her I can't get hard, I would feel really ashamed. When I'm with her i do get hard while kissing etc. but it lasts for 10-15 seconds than dissappears... I really hope hard mode is the answer.
     
  7. It could be a perfect situation, I think you should be honest with her about what caused the issue and let it take its time. This is not anything unusual and the entire forum is filled with guys experiencing the same issues, myself included.

    My advice is that you try to talk to her about it, and I suspect she would be understanding. It will lower your stress a lot if she knows and understand and I promise that it will get better.

    Stay positive and understand that your fixable.
     
  8. Tiredwanker

    Tiredwanker New Fapstronaut

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    I already told her that i used to watch a lot of porn but now im really cutting it back, and thats the truth but i thought i can masturbate without porn, seems like I can't ..

    She is a really beautiful girl and she deserves to be pleased properly, I just keep thinking why would she stay with someone who can't do that.. If it comes to a point where she asks me something about it, I will tell her.

    Thank you a lot for your words of encouragement bro, I am in a really tough position right now and i appreciate your help, hope you are right about everything!
     

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