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jurte

jurte

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I’ve done it again, after 6 days of abstaining I relapsed once again. I don’t know guys, it’s so terribly tough, and I have problems with breaking this vicious cycle. I kinda was stressed with the situation I had today, I met up with this girl and we had a date sort of after which I felt horrible, since she gave me a clear understanding that it won’t be so easy to get her. I felt exposed about my behavior and my relationship with my ex, since we officially broke up, but still keep in touch (my fault). This stress being in between two fires resulted in me relapsing and giving in to my urges. I beg God, to help me. I need your protection and grace, please Lord. Teach me to be a better man. I feel like I will be all alone and weak.
 
warrior guy said:
6 days thats still count as good . you are doing better than the most . trying does not count as failure.
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I know man. Thank you for that, problem is I don’t know what I want in life and what I want from life. I’m afraid after all these years of PMO, I won’t be able to get it up with any other girl than my ex since I’m only doing it with her. I also never had sex in condom, and that bothers me the most I always get soft. Sorry for details. But had to get it off my chest.
 
Si no será algo serio o verdadera Reconciliación y sigues con tu ex (Te harás más daño) a mi me pasó igual...ahora 1 año después , siento q apenas inicio la separación y NOFAP es lo q me está dando Fuerzas, Dios es bueno....
 
Yo, listen, to break this pmo cycle, here's what you have to do.

Always set a goal close to 1 day. "I've passed day 1, now it's time to reach day 2, yay, I've passed day 2, now it's time to reach day 3 and so on". You will succeed this way. When you've reached 90 days with this method, you probably won't crave for porn anymore or way less than before and being pmo free forever will be easy.
 
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jurte said:
I’ve done it again, after 6 days of abstaining I relapsed once again. I don’t know guys, it’s so terribly tough, and I have problems with breaking this vicious cycle. I kinda was stressed with the situation I had today, I met up with this girl and we had a date sort of after which I felt horrible, since she gave me a clear understanding that it won’t be so easy to get her. I felt exposed about my behavior and my relationship with my ex, since we officially broke up, but still keep in touch (my fault). This stress being in between two fires resulted in me relapsing and giving in to my urges. I beg God, to help me. I need your protection and grace, please Lord. Teach me to be a better man. I feel like I will be all alone and weak.
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It was an experience just like this that motivated me to break the cycle. The most useful thing you can do is focus on building a better life for yourself. Don’t think in terms of “not looking at porn”. Think in terms of “what makes my life better”.

Are you exercising regularly? Do you have male friends you can talk about your difficulties with? Or at least just hang out and shoot the shit with? Are you focused on how you intend to earn a living?
 
jurte said:
I don’t know what I want in life and what I want from life.
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You must know. It is this very question “what do I want my life to be?” that separates men from boys. Those with confidence and purpose from those without. If you don’t yet know, you must ask yourself and be patient. You must keep that question in mind and use it as the driving force of your life. The problem you are facing is not a porn addiction. Porn addiction is a symptom of a life lacking purpose, the refuge of a man that does not know what he wants and doesn’t believe he would be able to get it even if he did. You must know.
 
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