Here's my recovery plan to end my PIED, what do y'all think?

I’m in a similar situation. Curious to see what people here would reccomend...

 

You already did 110 days in hard mode you really think another 30 would help?

 

Maybe limit sex to once a week.

 

You are still thinking about porn during sex? If yes, this means your reboot isn't over yet, so more 30 would be good for you. And better if no Orgasm at all.

 

I would continue hooking up with your girlfriend. Real life interactions have the right connectivity.

If you wanted, you could refrain hardmode (I would still kiss/cuddle, she might be like wtf) for 30 days no fantasies and then have sex again.

I say this bc hardmode lessen/gets rid of the sexual connectivity wires made in your brain by porn. Then you need to have real sex to reconnect the normal natural wiring in your brain

 

don't count the days, just don't ever watch porn again and you'lle be cured one day.......you have to believe in it and have a little faith

 

Hope is all you have

 

You say ‘I find myself drifting or distant’...
I think herein lies the issue. If I were drifting or distant during sex i would probably have an issue too. So, why are you drifting or distant? Is it possible you’re not ready for this relationship and are using it for sex? If so your girlfriend is a porn substitute and you might need to address that. Continuing sex with this woman may be wrong for you...and for her. Are you using her? Do you feel wrong about the relationship in some way? Are outside life stresses overwhelming you?

Also, if your current world-view / life philosophy fails to provide you answers, perhaps you should consider exploring a religious one. Perhaps you, like me, were called to live differently. I abstain (best I can) from lustful thinking towards any woman whose not my wife. I’ll tell you, for me, it feels right and I have no erection issues! My only issue is I get a bit too excited.

 

@noonoon is making a good point. But I would like to add that it still doesn't have to be that way and could be related to earlier porn consumption. Nevertheless, I can't offer a particular solution.