Hello, this is my first post so please let me know if I'm doing something wrong. I have a question: how do you get him to actually work on his PM addiction? When he told me about his addiction, (which he thought I've found out myself, but I didn't) I minimazed it because I didn't know what it actually meant and also because he was very vulnerable and hurt. I've tried my best to reassure him that we will find a solution, focusing on his point of view, never looking at mine. The problem is that now that I know, it put in my mind very sad thoughts about what I thought our perfect relationship was and got him a lot less depressed, which is good, in a way, but also bad because now he just covers the problem and almost says that it is normal and we can go on just like this. I know it is my fault because I've tried my best not to make him feel judged or bad for what happened probably to a point in which he thought it was acually normal, but I know it is not. I've tried to tell him about this website, books, blogs, videos on youtube but he gets very defensive and I feel more sad each day. Now that I'm reading some of the blogs here and actually have a better idea of how hurtful dynamics are going to be, I just want to scream to him to do something before we get in a very bad place because I don't know if I'll still be as supportive if I keep understanding and noticing things... I really don't want to hurt him or tell him things in a way he feels wrong, judged, bad, not loved... because I know that these feelings got him to PM addiction in the first place. Does anyone has any advice? He actually goes to a psycologist, but he has not told her about this addiction because he doesn't feel comfortable. Which I understand, but at the same time I wonder how and when we will start working on this... Thank you very much for the help!