Hesitating to speak

I suffer from something simmilar. It really goes down to problems with confidence. You need to believe that what you have to say is important/funny/clever - you're hesitating because you don't know how others will think of you. I still don't have it 100%, but I think you should trust your words. If you want to work on this I suggest this youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/charismaoncommand

 

If you have the time and/or money to take an acting class or an improvisation class, I strongly recommend doing so. Acting helps out tremendously with social interactions. Comedic improvisation (something to potentially work up to) is also extremely useful.

Yes, it will be nerve wracking, but once again, I strongly recommend it.

 

Yes I know what you mean. You are not comfortable in your body. For me lifting with nofap helps a lot with this. I got it minor you could say. The problem is you are not in your body and you have 'unatural' tension you are not open and just here, not comfortable inside your body almost like you are trying to hide inside your body even more than you can...Go to the gym and try to just RELAX feel all your inner sensations,feeling and emotions and try to relax. With lots of nofap and especially some working out it will fix in no time - when that happens you feel much more confortable in your body ALL the time. In other words you cant fix your problem at the level you are, you need to become better so much taht the problem cannot be there anymore...

 

Nice thread!

Lol, I just started really engaging lots of random people on facebook (I only use it for conscious purposes and to connect with friends and family, I realize some people misuse it and in turn hate it haha) in the comment section of pages I follow.
I have no fear doing that these days, however I can relate to hesitating to speak in face to face group social situations still. Have gotten much better but still not happy with my overall social skillset so to speak.

Granted I like being introverted (I also consider myself extroverted and very social if that makes any sense) or perhaps deeply philosophical more than introverted lol, complex whatever the hell it is. I am not outgoing though, boy is this becoming baffling hahaha!

I love the idea of an acting class, I may do that at a community college just for fun and to meet some younger potential girls hehe. Granted I only date vegetarian and vegan women so you can imagine I don't date too often hahah. Unless a rare bird is very open minded and perhaps I can turn her into a veggie woman!

Going way off topic as usual I do apologize.

Like the advice so far, keep it comin especially naturally social butterflies! Give us your best advice!

With months of progress by the way I become a social beast, so this is all temporary lol.