hi 23 y/o newbei here

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by montebeta, Jul 22, 2019.

  1. montebeta

    montebeta Fapstronaut

    good morning everyone ,feel good to join the ni fap community .

    i am 23 y/o male currently working .i have been using watching porn since the age of 19 but i starting fapping at the age of 21 and from that time till now i become very much addicted to porn , i watch porn almost everyday and masturbate in every 2 days and sometimes 3 times a day ,it wasn't the case earlier .when i started doing masturbation at the age of 21 i used to once a week or in 14 days sometime i don't do at all , but when i moved out for college and started living alone in hostel it all changed drastically. now i have watchen so much porn that i can't resist my arousal and my urge to watch porn whenever i think to not watch porn and masturbation ,my mind says that nothing will happen let's do one more time and after that i feel guilt its happen almost everyday , it seems that i can't live without porn ,evertime my mind says me to watch porn even before creating this thread i have a feeling to watch porn , i get aroused after this that i can't resist my urge to watch porn and then i lapse . i think this habit effects me very badly first of all these types of feeling arises when you are alone or at night because of which it has wasted my time and disturbs my daily routine ,i can't get proper sleep , it make me a introvert i kinda like to live alone so that i can watch porn , it affected my health , it affected my concentration power and my remembring power ,it affects my very badly . it kinda feel like i am suffering from any sickness , any day when i watch porn i feel like have cured myself but as i told you i can't resist i for long & i lapse the next day it all started feeling the same way lazyness ,weakness it feels like i am not myself that's why i have decided to join nofap & i need your help to fight that arousing feeling and that urge to watch porn & fap which have grabbed me so tightly that i wasn't able to resist that . so please help me in nofap.
  2. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button |Day Counter | Rebooting Resources|Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
  3. 220woof671

    220woof671 Fapstronaut

    You can be successful at Nofap!!!
    Here's some tips you may like:

    Benefits of No PMO

    1. No social anxiety; 99% of time relaxed, calm, cool; easy to be sociable. If I do start to get nervous I think, "What do I have to be fearful about?" And I get calm in about 1-2 seconds.
    2. More attention from opposite gender -- without trying
    3. No brain fog; can concentrate easily. Can think clearer under pressure.
    4. Increased motivation & energy to get things done.
    5. More Stamina -- can hang in their longer at work (be tough) and complete projects; can work overtime, while others can't
    6. No fears; high levels of testosterone = strength and don't take bs. (No one has messed with me in 52 days +.)
    7. More time for good/productive things. Not wasting time going to phony porn sites; fapping to pixels; lusting, etc.
    8. The opposite gender increasingly becomes less and less of a priority.
    9. Improved Confidence -- (online comment) "porn and masturbation lowers your self-esteem and confidence"
    10. More Respectable -- (online comment) "if you resist the urge to masturbate -- a practice that is generally condemned -- you are likely to feel more respect for yourself; and others will respect you more." We all can quickly tell if a man or woman is fapping ... nervous ... weak … fearful … has shame [trying to hide something] …
    11. Improved Creativity and Resourcefulness

    *Somedays are so-so … and some are difficult due to "flat line". But your daily progress is motivating and inspiring to you & others.

    Tips to Successfully handle Urges or Temporary Temptations

    #1 Secret = Get Up and Go Outside [temptations usually only last 10-20 min] 2- Go on NoFap and make a post; or "like" some posts; or give advice 3- Listen to and Dance to your favorite music (fun and gets rid of excess energy) 4- Exercise, go to gym, go for a walk 5- Go to mall and talk with women (or men for females) 6- Go to store and buy yourself a reward/gift/treat (small daily; medium weekly; large monthly) 7- Work on your favorite hobby/passion/interest 8- Call, email or go visit a friend 9- Go walk a wonderful dog/cat/horse/llama around the block 10 - Have a "WHATEVER IT TAKES" attitude or mindset 11- Do a good deed for someone (extra points if they don't know who did it) 12- Take a break; take a nap (remind yourself that you are 100% in control and responsible for your behavior-actions) 13- All Things Are Possible 14 - Positive personal hygiene (brush teeth; shower) keeps your self-esteem high 15 - Fasting (water only) has many health benefits; a 1/2 day or more fast will help you have more self control 16 - Someone has said, "Taking it one day at a time, one urge at a time makes your goal manageable & successful." 17 - Use Distractions or Diversions [change the scenery] to help you overcome temporary temptations.

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