Hi, 27 year old seeking an end to addiction

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  1. Freedomcaller

    Freedomcaller Fapstronaut

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    Hi Fapstronauts

    I am a 27 old male, basically been into porn and masturbation since the age of 12, it was something I never knew could affect anybody in such a manner... through my journey I have lost 2 partners who could never fulfill my needs but I never knew that was because my needs were created by something that could never be fulfulled.... I am currently in a stable, good relationship and I have come to realize... if I don't make a change.. I may loose her too..

    So I want and need to stop PMO...

    Thanks for reading
     
  2. Soberhopeful

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    Thanks for sharing and welcome!
    You are home.

    PMO is a very subtle disease. It convinces us that things will be better with PMO, then calls us an idiot for doing PMO. You are not alone.
    Don't give up before the miracle happens and keep coming back. God bless.
     
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  3. Freedomcaller

    Freedomcaller Fapstronaut

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    It really is a sigh of relief knowing others out there have gone through and come out the better... for a really long time I believed It was only I.

    Thank you for welcoming me and the wise words
     
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  4. Soberhopeful

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    The disease of PMO wants you to believe it is only you that's why we never reached out.
     
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    Freedomcaller Fapstronaut

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    I shall remember that going foward
     
  6. Shapirro

    Shapirro Banned

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    Hi! It's great that you want to change. If there is a relationship, then you need to feel your partner and think about his desires. Change yourself and the world around you will also change.
     
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  7. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
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