Hi, 2nd attempt at this

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  1. lasko fan

    lasko fan Fapstronaut

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    Hi, I'm 33 y/o and I tried this once before, lasted about a week, relapsed. I've been viewing porn for about 20 years and it has caused pied and inability to orgasm. I definitely feel that it has ruined multiple relationships. Also has ruined my confidence and willingness to try to date again for fear of the embarrassment of not being able to perform. I've made it 7 days so far. I asked a close friend to install software on my wifi that blocks pornography. I'm also working on loosing weight (10 lbs in the first week) eliminating sweets and sugary drinks and energy drinks from my diet. Also, haven't drank alcohol in 23 days. I'm trying to get rid of all my addictions and harmful behaviors. I still smoke cigarettes but that's the next to go after I get through the hardest part of the others.
     
  2. Wolverine75

    Wolverine75 Fapstronaut

    Great to hear that you are trying . Keep it up. You will definately get your goal . Just stay on track man
     
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  3. ujjing

    ujjing Fapstronaut

    its okay what you have done till now leave behind...begin with new fresh start... yeah 20 years of PMO will obviously brings PIED and other many issues... but thing is don't focus on PIED focus on primary issue thats absorption of porn... because PIED will eventually vanish sooner or latter once you give up PMO... failure are mirror of our mistake try to visualize them where you went wrong... may be multiple relationship failed still u have chance to make ur life better...
    be active on this site and be more socialize and be more active so that your brain remain engage in other activity... relapsing will occur and dont criticize yourself too hard for that... also decide your goals whether you want to quit just pmo, or also alcohol along with cigarette too... whatever your goal is just make clear and focus on that too...yeah you can use software to block pornography on wifi... but make sure you control your urges while you are at some other wifi.. since its 20 years so somewhere it will take months to cure your pied till then have patience even though if no sign of improvement appear in starting of month dont loose hope.. it is all inside brain so brain knows very well how to manipulate you to make you watch porn...
    rest have a safe journey...incase of any help we are all here to help you...good luck
     
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  4. ELN

    ELN Fapstronaut

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    Hi lasko. Thanks for sharing this. Changes come slowly, specially if you want to beat an addiction (or more). So keep striving day by day and don't decay.
     
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  6. lasko fan

    lasko fan Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone,

    I've been doing really well. Checking in here reading the forums when urges started to feel strong. Diet has been great, down 30 pounds in just over 30 days. No alcohol in 50 days, no caffeine in 32. Today was day 34 without PMO. I woke up in the middle of the night and started mindlessly scrolling Instagram. I saw a handful of proactive pictures that got me slightly aroused (far faster than ever before). I put the phone down and ended up MO but I wasn't thinking about the pictures, any porn, any past or fantasy experience. I only focussed on the way it felt. I don't ever remember being able to MO without P (there were times I couldn't even do it with P). I'm not sure if I should consider this an indication that I'm on my way towards healing or if this was a setback.

    Any advice or words of wisdom?
     
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